Why Fighting Dampens Sex Drive

I’ve never seen anything so powerful as a tiff or full blown fight in dampening any sort of sex drive in both women and men.  This may be especially true for women, who are much more emotionally driven when it comes to anything sexual then men are.  Men tend to be, oh how do I say this, primitive, when it comes to their sex drive and sexual needs, not so much relying on that emotional part of the brain to get them in the mood, but more so getting themselves motivated by the primordial urges that separate men from women when it comes to how they derive pleasure from sexual contact.

Fighting not only puts pressure on a relationship, it also turns couples against one another, and turns on those little sneaky feelings of resentment and hostility that interfere with the need to copulate, or make love, totally sabotaging your planned little tryst.  If you think about it, it does make sense, since most couples who fight like cats and dogs also end up having a lousy sex life, unless they happen to have incredibly great “make up sex”, but even after a while makeup sex can’t make up for the fact that you have fought so hard that the last thing on earth you want to do is touch eachother and create pleasure for one another.

That’s a sign that a relationship is broken, when partners no longer have that desire to do things for eachother, whether it be in bed or out of bed,  and it’s a sign that counseling may be needed. When you think of all the potential things there are out there that couples can fight about, including money which is probably the most common thing, especially right now, it’s easy to let fights or little spats get in the way of a great, mutually fulfilling sex life for both partners.

You really have to be able to have an open dialogue with your partner, and resolve to never go to bed angry, I’ve found this immensely helpful in my relationship of eight years, because if we go to bed angry, that tends to run over in to the next day, and the next, and the next, and so on and so forth until the resentment builds to intolerable and unmanageable proportions. It’s best to talk it through, trust me.  Couples have enough pressure facing them these days, it’s best to hash it out when it happens instead of letting it stew, take it from a pro!