Oct 10
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Why Do Stars Divorce After So Long Together?
Or why does anyone divorce after they’ve been together for 15 years or more? I’ve always wondered that myself. I guess there is always the “growing apart” excuse, but even that seems like a thinly veiled attempt to explain why suddenly, after all those years of sticking through the good and bad times, which there will inevitably be in any marriage, a couple just throws in the towel because marriage is just too hard for them.
This is Jill here guys, and I am married. I’ve been with the same man, my husband now, for over eight years, and we have had good times and bad, but the important thing is that the good times far outweigh the bad.And also important is the fact that the bad times are superficial and usually over stupid things that can be easily resolved amongst two adults that are willing to give and take a little.
The big things are infidelity, losing all your money at gambling, and other such life altering, trust jeopardizing events. I know sometimes that the every day annoyances, trials and tribulations of marriage can get to people, but the fact is, that it’s not always going to be all romance and excitement like when you first met.
The fact is that the “love molecule” that circulates in your body and makes you feel like you’re walking on clouds when you fall in love at first, only lasts in the body for about a year. Sometimes not even, so what are you supposed to do after that? Well, you have to work at keeping it fresh and more importantly you have to also keep the lines of communication open. You also have to make sure this person remains your best friend.
Without being someone’s best friend, you really aren’t in it for the long haul, or you’re in it for the wrong reasons. You should be able to have fun with this person, and you should “get eachother” even though you may not always see eye to eye.
Some recent long time Hollywood relationships that bit the dust and raised by brow were Cameron Crowe and Nancy Wilson, who’d been together for over twenty years before calling it quits. Also of course there is Al Gore and Tipper, whom no one saw a divorce coming for. And no one certainly saw those sexual harassment claims coming out about Al either! I guess in the end, some people may just not be built for long term marriage….
