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What Makes for a Long Lasting Partnership?
As a woman (Jill here), I’ve often found myself wondering about whether or not my marriage will ever fall into the same trap that over half of all other marriages fall into – the divorce and separation one to be specific. The divorce rate is extremely high these days, after all, over fifty percent, and that is a huge obstacle to overcome. But there are lots of people that do it, they actually still seem happy with eachother after years and years with eachother.
Others go through ebbs and flows, where their marriage seems to be on the rocks, then it’s honeymoon time again, then back to on the rocks again, and so on and so forth. It’s hard to imagine that your marriage may fall into divorce one day, or heck, it’s even hard to imagine that some of your friends and close family will also follow into that trap, but chances are, many of your friends will begin to fall prey to divorce, and many family members as well.
Some of them will totally shock you, that’s for sure. I’ve seen it myself. Couples who seem happy on the outside announcing a divorce or separation after years together. But they seemed so perfect for eachother you find yourself thinking, and then inevitably you turn this perspective into introspect on your own significant other and your own relationship with your spouse.
One thing you must be very careful of is falling into a sexless state in your marriage. Once we stop having sex and being physically intimate with one another, the brain inevitably follows into a sort of malaise where it’s hard to feel emotions of attachment and romance. That’s when the eye may start to wonder, of you may start thinking that the grass looks greener on the single side of things.
Another thing you want to remember is to always keep the lines of communication open. Are you not happy with something in your marriage? Discuss it in an adult way with your partner, maybe they have some things they’d like to discuss too. Always make time for fun in your marriage. Do things together, on your own.
Go on those little romantic getaways, get a hotel room every once in a while for naughty, dirty sex – and if you need libido enhancement, try female libido boosters and male libido enhancement products for fun. Do fun activities together, intellectually stimulate eachother by visiting museums together, or go to the zoo and get some child like wonder out of your system.
Once we become complacent and take our partners for granted, that’s when the trouble and the discontent really start to brew.
