Oct 09
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Reasons for Performance Anxiety
There are any number of sexual performance anxiety fears in both men and women, however, men tend to feel it a little more since their sexual organ, the penis, is something that can only perform as long as it is erect, while a woman really only needs to worry about her moves and whether or not she may become dry during the sex act. Men have a little more to worry about though, especially since a lot of men put unreasonable expectations on themselves when it comes to pleasing women in the sack, thanks to a lot of movies that make it look like making love several times a night or for hours is a normal thing for men. It simply is not.
Something that can compound a man’s performance anxiety is whether or not he has had sexual problems in the past that have prevented him from totally pleasing a sexual partner or he’s been told that he’s a bad lover by someone who wants to hurt him badly. Don’t laugh, this stuff actually happens, especially when a relationship has gone sour and someone wants to just hurt the other person!
If a guy hasn’t actually had sex, besides the kind that he can perform by self pleasuring for a while, then he might also experience a lot of anxiety about his sexual prowess, as if he’s sort of forgotten how to be a with a woman. Or he may feel weird because he’s been divorced and hasn’t been with a new woman in several years. He may think he lost his game, or that he’s not really going to know what turns a new lover on, so there’s always a certain degree of anxiety when you are with a new lover for the first few times.
