This is Jill here guys, with a woman’s perspective on something that only women can do – give birth to the beautiful babies of this world.  And, as a woman who has not yet ever given birth myself, and may never do at any point, I may not be the most qualified to talk about it, but I’m going to.

I’ve always wondered how new mothers even try to fit in sexual activity with their partners when they have a new infant to deal with. In fact, most women do say that they’re not even sure how to do the most basic of things when they are new moms, especially for the first time, when they are just figuring out how to be a good mother.  One thing that is particularly frustrating for both new parents, the mom and dad, is the lack of sexual desire on the part of the woman.

Many times, men still have the same sexual desire they had before, although they may be somewhat dampened from the often sleepless nights and nervousness that comes with having a little one around.  This can definitely become a source of tension in a marriage, and it’s important to talk about it with your spouse of significant other, so that you know what the expectations should be.

Not only are the nervousness and inability to get full nights of sleep, let alone figure out what the baby wants 24/7 a constant interrupter of peace and any sexual impulses you might have, but also women deal with another obstacle to even having the faintest glimmer of a desire to get busy.  Prolactin, a hormone that is secreted when a woman is breast feeding her baby, actually has been found to suppress sexual desire in women.

As if nature weren’t cruel enough in new motherhood in other ways to our bodies with raging hormones and often times a touch of post partum depression, she also had to throw the wrench of adding more reasons for us not wanting to have sex. Thanks mother nature, we owe you one for that!  The mother is more intent on bonding with her infant as well, which may take a lot of the attention off of her relationship, and of course that can add to the unspoken tension in the relationship as well.

One thing is for sure, the solid, long standing relationships will weather new parenthood well, while the ones that are a little more fragile could possibly fall apart during such trying times. Remember that it’s just sex, and your sex lives will return to normal eventually. Sex isn’t the only reason you picked your partner, they’re also your best friend.

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