Nov 08
27
Old Folks Need Sex in Nursing Homes Too
The older we get, our society tends to peg us as “sexless” and as beings not capable of having sexual urges any more, or having dramatically reduced urges to have sexual intercourse or intimacy, but this quite frankly just isn’t true. There are of course people who have always had a low libido, and this most likely will not change for them as they age, and there is also of course a natural decline in your sexual urges as you get older, but nonetheless, you still have those feelings and they should be acted on, because sex is always good for the soul!
I like to envision my self as an older person who still likes to have sex and still feels the urges to have sex, but for many of us, we tend to even think of ourselves as sexless creatures when we reach age 70 or 80. We think that sex somehow becomes impossible at that age. Yes, while it’s true that our bodies aren’t quite as limber and maybe don’t look as youthful and lithe as we’d like them to, we still have the perfect capability to have sex, and what’s better, we are older and more experienced and tend to know what we like, so it’s much more productive than when we were younger in many ways!
This topic has come up as conversation at nursing homes as of late, with employees at these places of retirement and health care for the elderly wishing for a better education on how to deal with the sexual politics at a nursing home. Yes, sexual politics still happen at nursing homes too! Older people are still having sexual liaisons with eachother, and that’s perfectly fine, it’s nothing to flip out about. In fact, it’s their right to do so as much, and as often as they want, as long as they aren’t trying to do it in front of other people or do anything else that’s illegal, like anyone else is not allowed to do.
Many nursing homes make it difficult for these senior citizens to find absolute privacy if they either want to engage in sex with a partner, or even self pleasure themselves, which is something that people have said they still do and still want to do well into their 70′s and 80′s. They are trying to figure out how to make the subject of nursing home sexuality not such a taboo subject any more, and to afford their residents the privacy and right to do so as they see fit.
The problem of the semi pricate rooms and the way they are set up so as to not offer the most privacy when couples want to enjoy eachother is also being addressed. I wonder how many men in nursing homes are on impotence drugs like Viagra, Cialis and Levitra? That would also be an interesting survey, because these drugs are popular among the older age groups of men since many of them lose their abilities to get an erection.
