Nov 10
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Marriage : Fragile, Old Fashioned Institution?
Hi guys, Jill here offering my perspective on the thought that marriage is on it’s way out as a tradition here in the US. Is marriage really becoming a fragile, old fashioned constitution between two people who vow to be true friends and lovers to one another until they die? Or are we just becoming more realistic and less romantic as a society, and finding that not everything lasts forever, and certainly people who get married aren’t always truly suited to one another?
It all depends on who you ask, but I’m of the mindset that marriage is a really serious thing. It’s not to be taken lightly, and I think too many people, both young and old, jump into it without really knowing if they are compatible in the long term. Everything is roses when you first start dating. The sex is great, you can’t wait to see eachother and rip eachother’s clothes off and go at it all the time.
The sight of that person makes your heart skip a beat, stuff like that. But the reality is that this lovey dovey feeling fades over time. It’s like a temporary high, and if you’re meant to be with that person, the other million little things that start to get in the way of a fairytale romance will not seem so make or break if you have a solid, meaningful friendship at the start and a rock solid trust and enjoyment in one another.
I’ve seen it too many times where people just want to bail when a marriage isn’t fun all the time any more. That’s just not realistic. I mean, sure, if it’s not meant to be, then you probably will get divorced, but there are too many people who don’t wait until they jump into marriage to make sure they are the one for eachother.
I for one still believe in marriage. Do I sometimes want to kill my husband for saying stupid things or driving me nuts? Sure, but that’s because we’re so close, and that is bound to happen to the best of couples.
