Jul 09
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Is Faking an Orgasm a Bad Thing?
Although many women admit to regularly faking orgasms so that their partners think they’ve had one (to spare their feelings, or perhaps in an unselfish way to make sure they have their orgasm without feeling bad that she hasn’t had hers), there is some debate over whether that’s actually a good thing for the woman and her partner, especially the woman, because it’s not really an honest reaction to sex and may mislead their partner into thinking he’s doing the right things to get her to “go” and he’s not, furthering sexual tension and frustration down the line if she’s consistently not getting what she needs to reach sexual peak.
Some experts recommend that a woman or a man for that matter, do not fake orgasms routinely, as this creates a false sense of satisfaction, and in fact may become the norm for her to do it all the time even when she isn’t truly satisfied, or the guy isn’t truly satisfied, creating a sort of vicious cycle of dissatisfaction and false “positives” for the couple, without them truly learning what they need to do to bring eachother to climax when they have sexual intercourse or other types of sexual relations.
There are excellent female sexual enhancers that may help your partner to achieve orgasm more easily, and that may also get the dialogue going on whether the two of you are truly orgasming as often as you feel you need to when having intercourse. And that thing in the movies where the partners both have their climax at the same time? Um, that’s total fantasy and that rarely ever happens in the real beds of American men and women, yes, that even goes so for the most beautiful people out there like the actors and actresses that portray those perfectly orchestrated sex scenes that give us all sexual envy for no good honest reason.
It’s stuff like that in movies and pornos that get all of us thinking that our sex should look and feel like it does on the screen, and it’s totally unrealistic because both parties are acting and in fact they may be totally uncomfortable and/or not enjoying themselves at all, much less able to have a perfectly unified orgasm for goodness sake. We all know how wonderfully erotic real sex can be, so don’t let that perfectly lit stuff get in the way of you enjoying your own real sexual fantasies.
