Apr 10
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How Deep Is Your Love?
Yes, I titled a post after a famous Bee Gees song. Hey, I’m not immune to a little cheesy seventies romance music once in a while! I know so many women (including my wife) who really love that song, and I think it’s not just because of the falsetto voices of the Gibb brothers singing the song, but it’s also about what it symbolizes for women. Women really value long lasting, deep relationships. But they also value romance, and sometimes the two just don’t go hand in hand.
For instance, when you start farting in bed, that’s kind of when you know the constant facade of romances and perfection is over. And shoot, that usually happens after your first year together. But that doesn’t mean that you don’t love or respect eachother, it just means that you’re comfy enough with one another to let one rip here and there and have a laugh about it. No biggie, right? Happens in all long term relationships and marriages!
Shoot, I can’t tell you how many times my wife and I, who have been together for eight years now, have actually started laughing before we have sex, while we’re having foreplay time, or during sex because something funny happened to set us into laughing spells. It’s ok – not every moment is going to be a story book romance, and if you can’t get used to that, and more importantly, if she can’t, then there will be problems down the line.
You see, there’s a little thing called reality. And unfortunately a lot of these romances novels and movies tend to gloss over that little seven letter word, and give us (especially women) unrealistic views about modern romance and relationships.
People just don’t talk like that, and they don’t act like they first met forever. Intensity goes away, and what you are left with in the end after the initial intense sexual attraction fades, is whether you truly dig eachother on an emotional and spiritual level. If you don’t, well then, you just don’t last, and you go your separate ways.
Lasting love is really all about loving eachother’s souls and dealing with your shortcomings in a way that kind of laughs at the situation. If you can’t have a sense of humor about life, then you may as well throw in the towel, because relationships are full of flaws, in the end it’s about how much you love the person for who they are.
