May 09
29
Does Porn Desensitize Men to Sex?
We have a guest author today! It’s a woman. She’s going to tell us what her point of view is on the raging porn issues, and why she thinks the way she does as a woman. Most guys have no problem with it, unless they are speaking from a religious or belief agenda, so I thought it would be good to get a woman’s point of view on the subject.
There has long been a debate over whether pornographic images, films, and increasingly graphic and plentiful online porn sites, can be harmful to a relationship if a man gets addicted to looking at these images. The reason it can be harmful is that the images are usually unrealistic, with the female partner always willing and doing crazy sex acts that most normal women, and yes, even these porn stars in their real, every day lives, aren’t always up for or simply do not want to try at all. There are also proponents of plentiful porno who say that it helps people to find new ways to sexually please eachother, and that it actually can bring a couple closer when they watch it together.
As a woman, I can say that I feel a sort of dichotomous way about porn. I feel like, when used in moderation, it can be a good thing for a relationship when you watch it together as a couple. I know guys will always look at this stuff on their own, and I’m fine with that, I think it’s totally healthy and natural. However, I’ve known too many men that take their online porn to an extreme where it almost becomes an addiction. If you watch a lot of the porn today, I’ve gotta say as a woman, that a lot of the bodies on there are unrealistic. You have women with gobs of makeup on with these super skinny bodies and huge breasts.
When guys see their partners, we feel like maybe we’re a let down from the impossible body type, and that can make us feel inferior. There’s also the aspect that the women in porno films are always acting like they just can’t wait to give the dude oral pleasure, and that they take it any way they can, doing things like having you know what allover their face or in their mouth, doing anal sex and things like that, which is something that not all Average Janes are up to doing. Men can get the wrong idea when they watch too much porn, and I do feel like an addiction to it can desensitize them to the real life thing because they’re used to seeing what they want on the screen and pleasuring themselves to that, and then when the real thing happens, they have trouble getting into it.
