Did you know that a staggering 50% - actually more like 60% of people in monogomous, long term relationships are afraid to ask their lovers for what they really want, and really need when it comes to their sexual relationship? 

Most people say that it is either due to the fear of hurting the other partners feelings or making them feel inadequate, or quite simply, the fact that both partners have grown somewhat complacent and accepting of what their sexual life is like, and convinced that it will not change (or not caring if it does change). 

You see, the problem with love - and I mean real, true, long lasting, marriage love - is that once you really fall in love with a person and want to genuinely stay with them for the rest of your life for all intents and purposes, you tend to let the sexual end of the relationship, well, shall we say, fall by the wayside a bit. 

It’s not that you don’t occasionally fantasize about what you’d like your partner to do to you, or what you’d like them to do more often to your or for you, it’s just that mustering up the energy to actually do something about doesn’t seem like the first thing you want to do when you get home from that exhausting day at work, right? 

Let’s face it, keeping it spicy in the bedroom takes energy, time and communication, and sometimes we’re just - well, we’re just plain old lazy.  We grow to used to eachother and don’t pay attention to eachother’s changing needs, or need to keep things alive.  

This is what sadly kills many sexual relationships, and also leads to the overall demise of many relationships all together.  Take the time, take the energy, and I think you’ll be amazed at how much your partner is willing to do to please you in the sack. 

I have TONS of friends, male and female who say they participate in dirty talking while they’re having sex, heavy petting, making out, or whatever words you want to use to describe getting intimate with a partner.  Why does this turn so many people on?  And why does it seem to “do it” for both men and women in the bedroom? 

Well, for women, usually talking dirty allows them to let go of some of their “good girl” inhibitions and feel a little more like she did when she first met a guy.  A little more daring, a little dirtier, and sexual. 

Women like it because it makes them feel kinky and a little like they’re doing something “wrong” that may not necessarily by the society norm of having sex in the missionary position, with the only noises coming out of their mouths being moaning.  In other words, it’s a departure for most women, unless you’re some sort of professional.

Men like it for many of the same reasons as women - namely the kink factor of talking dirty, but they also like it because men are much more visual creatures than women, and they are also much more turned on by the sounds they hear - in other words, they are turned on “audibly” as well as visually. 

Men like it when they hear their partner’s voice telling them what they’re going to do to them, making them feel like a big, virile, sexual and powerful man.  Or they may even like a little of the proverbial “degrading” talk where women take control and demand their partner do different sexual things to them.   

One of the aspects of talking dirty that is overlooked is the aspect of open communication in a sexual sense.  Many times, talking dirty is a little more acceptable and sexier than a person simply “commanding” you do certain things to sexually please them. 

Somehow it all seems a lot more sexual and kinky when you “purr” the words or bark commands in an over the top, obviously role playing manner.  Don’t know about you, but dirty talk works for me - it enhances the whole sexual experience!

Pheromones are almost like a “scent” that we all give off to varying degrees which attracts us to eachother.  You know, like that person you know that seems to get crazy amounts of attention from the opposite of sex for no apparent reason?  Well, they probably put out more pheromones than the average Joe does.

We’ve all experienced pheromones at work.  Why else would we be crazily attracted to some people, and then not as attracted to others who are equally good looking?  Pheromones play a huge part in the game of human attraction, and there are actually even some very effective human pheromone colognes or sprays that get the job done. 

I actually know some men who’ve used them and tell me that they definitely notice an increase in the amount of attention they get from women, or their spouse whatever the case may be.  It’s definitely an enticing idea, isn’t it?  The fact that you can actually manipulate the way a woman is attracted to you, I think is a fascinating one.  And it’s true, that’s the real kicker! 

OK, so I’m using a popular slang name for Cinemax, one of the most well known mainstream cable channels, second only to Showtime and HBO, but known for their affinity for soft core sex films and cheesy movies geared toward men, like “Busty Cops”, or “Hot Nights with My Wife” and other stuff like that.

But do they have something going for women too?  I know my girlfriend wouldn’t like “Busty Cops” but there were a few that were more geared toward women like the movies about psychologists who counseled couples on their sexual frustrations and inhibitions (women would love this), or one about a married woman conflicted because she finds herself lusting over her gardener, etc. etc. 

The movies are not so “hardcore” that they would turn a woman off, but they are more like something that you and your woman could watch together, without one or the other being totally turned off.  Trust me, women like to watch sex films too, it’s just different things that turn them on. 

They’re not into seeing the all out intercourse movies, or closeups of private parts that aren’t deemed as “sexy” by women, but are more into seeing a story, and preferably not some cheeseball dude getting all these hot women for no reason, or a bunch of girls making out with eachother. 

I think Skinemax, sorry I mean Cinemax might be the perfect aphrodisiac for you and your partner to watch together, you just have to choose something that you’ll both like.  Trust me, watching these types of visual turn on movies is a huge benefit to both of your sex lives.  Turn off the inhibitions and turn on the fun.

I’ve come to a conclusion.  Mind you, it’s pretty elementary, but nonetheless, a conclusion.  I’ve just had some of the best sex, with baby oil.  Yeah, baby oil, not some kind of contrived sex oil, but baby oil.  It was baby oil from Target.  I think it was even less than a dollar honestly. 

We both oiled up with it, my girlfriend had the oil allover her body, and I had it on my penis, and we just went at it.  Not only was it a visual turn on to see her all oiled up, but it was also an excellent lubricant.  Now I don’t know if it was the most safe, nontoxic thing, but it sure did feel good, and had just the right consistency for sex and “motion”.

Like I said, no major breakthrough here guys, but just an observation on sex and how the simplest things sometimes can rock your world.  Oh yeah, she LOVED it too, because I kept telling her how hot her body looked all oiled up, so it was a double turn on for both of us.   See what a little compliment can do, for either of you?

As the male enhancement and the penis enlargement markets expand and become more and more mainstream and plentiful, savvy men are taking notice of the possibilities now open to them by these new male enhancement products. But, as with any other somewhat major purchase and self-improvement hope, most men wonder, which product to choose? 

The average new customer does not have a good grasp on how penis enlargement and sexual enhancement products work. To this end, lots of men find themselves comparing men’s sexual products they have never heard of and trying to decide which one is better, without “really” knowing if they’re being fed a line of bull or not. A perfect example of this consumer confusion is the differences between penis enlargement pills and penis enlargement patches.

The biggest differences between these two popular forms of men’s sexual enhancement products is the means by which the active ingredients are delivered as well as the formulas within them and how they act in your body. There has not been any significant evidence or studies showing that one works better than the other, by the way.

As everybody knows, any type of pill works by being dissolved and digested in the stomach, and entering the blood stream from there, where it carries out it’s designated function in the man’s body.

Once the stomach acids eats the capsule or pill apart, the substances pass through the liver and into the blood stream and start doing their work. In order for these penis pills to be active they must be consumed at designated intervals throughout the day, such as twice a day, once with breakfast, once with dinner, or whatever the maker has assigned as your scheduled timing.

The penis enlargement patch, however, works by delivering the active ingredients through the skin, which then is delivered “transdermally”, or through the skin, directly going into the blood stream. Thus, it has been assumed that the substances avoid some of the processing that occurs in the stomach and liver.

This just gives the penis enlargement patch a slight advantage over a penis enlargement pill, in that it does not have to be remembered a couple times a day, as usually the patches are changed once every two to three days.  The delivery may also be a bit more consistent with a patch, and is ideal for those of you that may forget to take pills a couple times a day, or just hate to take pills for whatever reason.

Did you know that an alarming amount of men who “get snipped”, or the more medical term, undergo a vasectomy, the permanent male birth control method where the man’s vasa deferentia tubes, where the sperm which populate a man’s semen are added to the semen, in order to fertilize the egg, are actually disable, or severed.

We all know the term, since it evokes the thought of sexuality just by saying it : erogenous zones.  Women and men both have erogenous zones, and while these pleasure zones may vary from person to person, there are some parts of the anatomy that you are almost guaranteed to get a scream or utterance of pleasure from any women by touching just the right way, hell, sometimes just by grazing.

A lot of women have a common erogenous zone in the following places.  The nape of the neck is a hugely sensitive and erogenous area on almost any woman.  Touching or kissing her lightly there will almost certainly open the way for further sexual intimacy.  Even grazing this area you may get a giggle or a lusty moan from a woman. 

Another area like this on females is their inner thighs.  Inner thighs are an extremely touch-sensitive are on women, and are a huge turn on when they are touched lightly , or the hand or fingers is run gently up and down her inner thigh. 

Behind the ears, or the ears themselves are also a highly erotic area to touch a woman, as this is very sensitive, and even a little “kinky” to play with, and you will get a reaction if you suck on an ear lobe, and lightly kiss behind her ear.

Any one has any other suggestions, we could all use more help on this one!

Most men don’t truly know the importance of clitoral stimulation before and during sex to really get a woman to have a great orgasm.  A lot of men think that women just have a hard time having a big orgasm, just because that’s the “way they’re built”, but that’s not really true all of the time.  The hard truth is, that most men do not know exactly what to do to get their woman really going and prepped for an orgasm, and most women don’t even know how to tell their partner what they need, because they themselves don’t know.

Well, the clitoris is the most sensitive and important aspect of getting a woman to full orgasm.  It is the part of the anatomy that sticks out a little, especially if the woman shaves her pubic area, and looks like the quintessential “Little man in the boat”. 

You can gently play with the clitoris during foreplay sessions, and this will almost certainly get a woman wet and ready for sexual intercourse.  It also tends to make her want to do things to you, so it’s a win/win situation.  Make sure you do not get too rouch or apply too much pressure, because it is a sensitive area, and requires only the lightest touching to get her ready for more.

You can also gently “prod” the woman’s clitoris while you are having sex, but this only really works if she is on top.  A female friend of mine says her husband always does this when she’s on top and many times she has mutliple orgasms, so it really is true that this can add a lot to your partners whole experience . And it’ll give you a great reputation a good lover.

This is continued from the last post on penile enlargement pointers on how to keep the best records for success and a true measurement of your growth and success…

The length and girth of the penis have to be measured in both the flaccid and erect states, in order to have an accurate view of the penis size. Measuring correctly is vital in this case, more so because your penis is not a piece of wood or metal. The penis is made of tissues that contract and expand according to room temperature, physical exertion and certain psychological factors.

Just knowing that you are going to measure your penis is enough to get the blood flowing into the Corpora Cavernosa. Therefore you should try to be as calm as possible before measuring your penis. 

Whether you are erect of flacis, you will be measuring the size of you penis from the side with the measuring tool.  You will also be standing up straight while keeping your penis fully extended out in front of you. 

Try your hardest not to stretch the penis and get false measurement results, but rather just prop the penis up with your fingers, putting very little pressure on it so you can get a true and valid measurement of your progress. Girth should always be measured at the middle of the penile shaft. Remember to use the same spot every time you measure your penis.

Every time that you take penis measurements, remember to write the exact size down in your logbook and also remember to always take the measurements when you are flacid, or if you’ve been doing them when you’re hard that’s fine too, as long as it’s consistent.

This way you will be able to identify the growth pace of your own body, based on how much the time it took to add an extra inch of tissue to the penis.

At first, you will probably think little of the Penis Health logbook. After all, it contains nothing more than your starting size. However, a couple of months later the logbook will be proof of the results brought by your persistence and a source of pride. It will also help you set the pace of workouts.

Be careful, though, because it is far too easy to give in to eagerness and measure your penis every week, although one week is too short to notice any significant changes. Too frequent measuring leads to depression and loss of motivation.

You can use your cell phone if you have a calendar type of program in it, or even your PDA (palm pilot), or you can just use the good old faithful pen and paper, or a little notebook.  

Thus, your own logbook will be both proof of your hard work within the Penis Health program showing the exercises you’ve completed faithfully and honestly as well as any amount of progress, no matter how big or small, that you’ve shown in the last couple days, weeks, or months, however long your program takes you.