Penile chafing is actually a fairly common problem.  It can happen if a guy is having sex frequently, or even from doing - ehem, his own pleasure seeking a bit too often, or it can just happen like it happens to skin anywhere else on the body, from irritation or sensitivity. 

It can also happen from various sexual lubricants that are used, for example I believe one of the ones that leads to this if it is overused, especially in guys with sensitive penis skin, is the warming sexual liquids, like KY warming and other similar ones that either have cinnamon and other skin irritants in them, or contain ingredients that warm when they are rubbed or touched. 

Those are typicallly used as female sexual enhancement rubs, but they often come in contact with the penis upon penetration and the friction combined with the heating can irritate some guy’s skin.  That’s just my opinion though, there’s really no published research on that or anything (and why would there be). 

What you need to do if you’ve rubbed the skin raw on the penis is, first of all, take a breather from sexual activity until the chafed spot is healed.  This can be tough, but believe me, it can be painful if it starts getting rubbed so much that it gets raw and starts to bleed or otherwise ooze other liquid out of it.  When it gets to that stage, it requires an even longer healing process, so you want to try to avoid that stage all together if possible. 

Now, as far as what you can do, you will need to take care of the chafing on your penis by putting some sort of soothing ointment on it, you can even use one with antibiotics in it like Neosporin or other similar anitbiotic ointments to prevent it getting infected.  There are some homeopathic ointments that may also be used, but it’s difficul to say what may irritate some guys more and what may work as an ample soother.  Aloe may work on some guys but may irritate others. 

My preference is to just stick to a light layer of Neosporin, so that it keeps the wound moist and doesn’t allow it to just peel and get raw again. Also the anitbiotic action will prevent any sort of infection which is an added benefit, and may even help speed the healing process.

This was an interesting article I read about how fitness experts are tending more toward totally different types of workouts for men and women, which vary based on the person’s sex, rather than totally relying on the typical workout factors like current weight, fitness level, and muscle mass at time of beginning a regimen, they will base the type of workout, length of sets and so forth, on a person’s sex.

This isn’t that far off from how it is now though.  Right now, men usually do vary the way they workout from women in the amount of weight they use in lifting and leg presses or other types of bench presses, and the key different that many men practice that is not usual for women is that they work on body parts.  So for example men will work on arms and lats one day and then the next they may work on their abs and quadriceps, while women can tend to bunch all their workout into one.

Women usually will combine cardio exercise with muscle fitness for all of their workouts, so they might start off with a half hour or so of cardio, and then move onto their legs doing presses or squats, then maybe work out their abs for a bit, and then their arms.  Men chop theirs up more, working and focusing on one body part at a time, because supposedly men’s muscles respond a little differently to muscle resistance. 

Also, levels of testosterone have a lot to do with the difference between men’s and women’s workouts, because testosterone allows men to lift a lot more weight at a time and bear that weight more evenly and effectively than a woman, so testosterone definitely plays a big part too in the differences between the sexe’s workouts. 

Well, I know that it’s hard for men to eat their veggies usually, well, unless you were raised on them, as I was and my dad was.  We were raised to like fresh garden vegetables and also some fruits - although the fruits were limited, so it was no big deal to us to eat a healthy helping of veggies with every meal around spring and summer time when the garden would yield it’s freshest and ripest varieties. 

However, and this may be the key to why men have higher occurrences of certain health problems than women, men are not as likely to reach for those fruits or veggies when they’re eating.  In fact, and even worse, is that men are more likely to reach for the meats than women are, and meat is the most system clogging thing you can eat.  It’s very hard to digest, and many researchers think that high meat diets, and quite often diets high in red meat, are responsible for digestive disorders and certain types of cancers.

Another interesting fact is that men, according to this latest survey, are more likely to consume undercooked meats and also runnier eggs than women, and these both account for higher contamination rates since organisms can live in meats that are undercooked that could make people sick.  Women are more likely to eat yogurt also, and interestingly enough yogurt is one of those foods, like fruits and veggies, that are associated with improved health and stable weight or weight loss.

Men were also much more likely to eat asparagus than women, which is interesting because I know a lot of both men and women who like this expensive little vegetable.  It also has that unfortunate distinction of making your urine stinky, akin to something you’d smell in a sewer, so maybe that’s why women may have a slight subconscious aversion to the vegetable?  Hey at least us guys are getting some nutrients in our diet - asparagus!  Seriously guys, you need to eat your veggies. 

They will decrease your risk of colon cancer, many other types of digestive related cancers, and also prostate cancer since they have so many beneficial compounds in them that can help fight cancer and stop it from forming in the first place.  Fruits do as well because they are abundant in antioxidants. 

Holiday stress leads to lots of things.  It leads to increased anxiety and uncertainty because of the weighing idea that we need all kinds of money to pay for gifts for our loved ones, more anxiety over seeing family, and the food that we eat also leads to increased stress and anxiety, because it lends itself to the stress and anxiety roller coaster by increasing our insulin levels and resulting in unbalanced blood sugar, which increases the stress hormone called cortisol.

What does all this holiday stress spell out for your sex life?  Well it means that you probably don’t want to have sex or sexual contact because you are stressed to the max for one, and second, it leads to decreased time for you and your sexual partner to actually do the deed since you are exhausted due to holiday obligations and running all over creations to find the perfect gifts for family and friends.  Add to that the anxiety of attending work parties, and other holiday parties, and you’ve got a full sexual meltdown during the holidays.

So, what can you do?  Well, make sure you don’t totally neglect the gym or wherever else it is that you get the majority of your physical activity in.  If you can’t exercise during these stressful times, it just makes the anxiety and stress increase two and three fold.  Not working out the frustration and tension just lets it build up more, and faster, so make sure you’re literally “working out” the stress on a daily basis somehow, or at least every other day. 

The exercise will increase your energy levels, and enable you to cope with the stress more readilly and efficiently.  This results in an improved sexual desire as well as better sexual experiences, which, you guessed it, results in further stress reduction because sexual release does constitute itself as a stress reducer in itself.  Furthermore, do not neglect your nutrition. 

Make sure you are taking your men’s multivitamin still, since you may be depriving your body of the necessary nutrients to keep a man healthy during the holiday with all the junk food around, and also make sure you are getting adequate antioxidants with the different men’s health supplements that are out there with high antioxidant value, which combat the destructive effects of stress and anxiety at the cellular level. 

Most people think men are mostly concerned about male hair loss, but they are also concerned about something else when it comes to hair - body hair, to be specific.  Men do not like being overly hairy, contrary to some’s beliefs.  Men, just as much as women, like to de-hair their bodies when they become over comparative to a bear or other nasty hairy creature, and many of them either shave the hair off or use hair removers to get the job done. 

The quest for stubble free legs begins for girls about age 12 or 13 and persists for a lifetime. For women in menopause or, at any phase of life, there’s nothing worse cosmetically than those unwanted hairs that sprout up on your chin or upper lip.  There’s a number of different methods to remedy the problem of unwanted hair.

There’s the method of waxing the area with the unwanted hairs.  Essentially, you heat wax until it’s warm and melted and apply it to the problem area. After the wax has cooled and hardened, you pull it off and the unwanted hairs come off with the wax. Veet features waxing products that pull the hair out from the root which means the hair will not grow back for up to 4 weeks.
Veet has a full line of depilatory products besides their waxing products.  Veet produces creams, mousses and lotions that dissolve the proteins that make up the hair shaft.  Nair is another company that features depilatory items for smoother, stubble free legs.  They have a hair removal cream or a hair remover spray for use on your legs.

 There’s a depilatory that is herbal called Kalo.  Kalo is applied three times daily, two days consecutively, for hair removal.  Kalo slows hair growth until it is finer and weaker and eventually gone completely.  Kalo states it is natural, herbal and a painless method of hair removal. 

Electrolysis is a method of hair removal that uses a medical device called epilators that destroy the growth center of the hair via short wave radio frequency.  Electrolysis requires a number of sessions and the speed of the results vary from person to person.  If you have unwanted body or facial hair, there’s many choices to deal with it besides just shaving or tweezing.

And, if you’re worried more about hair loss, then see our page on male hair loss products. 

Do you know how many people say that they just don’t feel “in the mood” because they feel fat or bloated?  And no, I’m not just talking about the female sex, but also the male sex.  Men, how many times have you had a huge meal, and felt all big and bloated, and almost on the verge of sick, and this has dampened your desire to have sexual intercourse? 

Of course, for men, it’s probably not as profound as for women, since women are notoriously more self conscious about their bodies during sex and also are more prone to connecting sexual emotions with how they feel, but it does happen for us men too sometimes, right?

Well, maybe I’m speaking too soon, or from too personal of a perspective, but I know that feeling like I ate too much or just in general, feeling out of shape and “fat” really does dampen my whole sexual feeling, that I’m a sexual being who is attractive and capable of having great sex.  Sound crazy?  Well, maybe not. 

Surveys have found that men are increasingly body-aware when it comes to sex and with the new metrosexual trend and the acceptability of a guy who cares about his looks and is self conscious about his looks, it seems this has been a double edge sword for dudes, making them more self conscious about these things. 

Not only that, when you eat too much, it actually can have a chemical reaction which dampens sexual response and also dampens the actual mood, so there really is something to it! 

Yeah, supposedly there are ways that you can actually step up the intensity of your workout, men, and end up spending less of your precious time in the gym, if you spend any time in the gym at all.  Couch potatoes, no need to even tune in for this one.  Lots of guys work out so that they do multiple reps in the gym, and they focus on only one body part at a time.  A well known fact amongst men that go to the gym, right?

Well, supposedly health experts and fitness guru extraordinaires are saying that reworking the time you spend in the gym and changing your routine up a bit can not only get you better results, but also faster results, which translates to less time in the gym for you guys who are body and health conscious. 

So, how can you cut back on your gym time? 

Well, supposedly if you use an approach where you gradually build up your intensity, whether weight lifting, or cardiovascular workouts, while then doing sudden, shorter bursts of more intense activity, will help you reduce your time in the gym. 

This means that while you’re probably used to keeping the intensity higher for a long period of time while doing only short periods of your “warm up” time which is less intense by definition, this could actually be prolonging the time you need to workout while giving your the exact same results as the more targeted, slow alternating between short bursts of intensity and a shorter period of warmup.  Get it? 

Likewise, on the treadmill or elliptical machine, vary your intensity.  Don’t just do high intensity for long periods of time, but instead keep varying the intensity in short bursts.  This is actually more efficient than long periods of high intensity as well.  So, if there are interval training settings on your piece of equipment, or one with hills or various amounts of intensity, go for that one instead. 

Who knew that working too hard for too long could actually be detrimental to your efficiency when working out?  I certainly didn’t.  If you already knew this principle well then good for you!  If not, hope you learned something valuable!

A lot of men don’t really know “what makes a woman tick”.  For instance, lots of men think it might be perfectly acceptable to let a woman pay on their first or second date, or to not hold doors open for them, or to talk about their ex girl friend or wife incessantly, acting like a wounded animal on the first few dates. 

They think their sparkling personality will just win them over, and they don’t really have to think about all that other “cosmetic” nonsense.  Well, guys, I hate to break it to you, but those crazy pheromones you’re producing, or all that charm you’re oozing out of your pores, cannot make up for some very simple basic ground rules of dating being broken.

Let’s talk about what those are, then we can talk about how pheromones and good old fashioned physical and emotional attraction can help to add to the date or the whole romantic experience, and make a women go gaga for you, for real.  First of all, women like strong men.  I don’t mean strong in the sense that you can lift over a hundred pounds in weights with each arm, but strong in the sense that you don’t come off sounding like a whiny baby when talking about things like work, past relationships, and any other unfortunate situations in your life that happen to come up in more intimate conversations. 

You can treat a woman like a queen, but if you show her that you’re going to be crying on her shoulder every night, she will instinctively not think of you as a “hunter and gatherer” - get my drift? 

Also, like I said earlier, pay for the first few dates. Lots of guys think women’s lib has made it ok to accidentally forget your wallet on the first date, but it really isn’t ok, and trust me, she will remember that forever.  It’s not to say that women are gold diggers, but they do like to see that you are self sufficient, and that you like her enough to shell out money to pay for her movie and dinner or whatever you happen to be doing with her on the date. 

More tips to come, but we’ve covered a few very important ones so far on dating, and how pheromones and good old fashioned attraction just can’t make up for certain indiscretions! 

Many couples who have been together for a long time tend to think that all the lust, spontaneity and desire has gone out of their relationship after anywhere from 2 years to 5 years. While this is true for most couples (and I bet the ones that say it isn’t are fibbing a bit, or just in denial) experience this ebb in the tide of sexual desire, it is not impossible to get it back.As long as you and your partner are committed to one another, and genuinely want the other one to be happy, there are ways which you can both help to get the spark back in the relationship, sexually speaking.

Do you have an unexpectedly sexy time with your loved one or spouse sometimes?  When I say “sexy time”, I mean those moments that are not traditionally sexy or wanton, like grocery shopping, or cooking dinner.  Somehow a lot of us have interludes or thoughts of sexual interludes when we’re doing the most unexpected things together. 

Take for example cooking dinner.  Cooking dinner together can be a great aphrodisiac, as long as neither of you gets in the others way or suddenly become Atila the Hun in the kitchen, bossing and barking orders (or maybe that’s your thing). 

Doing anything domestic and traditional together often unites couples in a bond where they just might be turned on by watching their women toss the pasta, or slice the garlic for the sauce, or watch their man steam the veggies or sautee the mushrooms. 

It does sound silly, but many couples do report they find their significant other irrestistable when they are doing the following usually mundane tasks together : Grocery shopping, cooking, working out together, going to dinner parties, clothes shopping, visiting the parents, and others ranked high on the affection and sex-sparking ometer for many couples, who’d been together for ranging periods of time.