Do we not like kids?  No, absolutely not. I enjoy kids, I think they are hilarious actually, and they really do make you smile like nothing else can when they say something totally innocent.  It’s great to see the joy on their faces when they are experiencing something new too.

I just have a lot of other things on my personal agenda that might make parenthood a back burner sort of thing. Maybe just saying that alone means I’m just not destined to have children. I don’t really know.  Sometimes I get the maternal instinct, but honestly my husband and I have never had a lot of money until we started to make more in our careers about six years ago.

Since then, we’ve finally been able to make some purchases we always wanted to, and to travel more. We are really enjoying life, and really enjoying eachother, and that’s all we personally need right now.  The only thing that sort of keeps me up at night is the possibility that we will regret the decision to go childless when I’m too old to have a child of my own safely. There’s always adoption, but realistically that takes several years to even get through, so the timing thing would be all off.

I’m ok with it.  It’s a very personal decision, and you should never get shit for it if it’s a decision you’re ok with.  Likewise, you should never force your opinion that being childless is the best way to go either!

I’ve always wondered how new mothers even try to fit in sexual activity with their partners when they have a new infant to deal with. In fact, most women do say that they’re not even sure how to do the most basic of things when they are new moms, especially for the first time, when they are just figuring out how to be a good mother.  One thing that is particularly frustrating for both new parents, the mom and dad, is the lack of sexual desire on the part of the woman.

Many times, men still have the same sexual desire they had before, although they may be somewhat dampened from the often sleepless nights and nervousness that comes with having a little one around.  This can definitely become a source of tension in a marriage, and it’s important to talk about it with your spouse of significant other, so that you know what the expectations should be.

Not only are the nervousness and inability to get full nights of sleep, let alone figure out what the baby wants 24/7 a constant interrupter of peace and any sexual impulses you might have, but also women deal with another obstacle to even having the faintest glimmer of a desire to get busy.  Prolactin, a hormone that is secreted when a woman is breast feeding her baby, actually has been found to suppress sexual desire in women.

As if nature weren’t cruel enough in new motherhood in other ways to our bodies with raging hormones and often times a touch of post partum depression, she also had to throw the wrench of adding more reasons for us not wanting to have sex. Thanks mother nature, we owe you one for that!  The mother is more intent on bonding with her infant as well, which may take a lot of the attention off of her relationship, and of course that can add to the unspoken tension in the relationship as well.

One thing is for sure, the solid, long standing relationships will weather new parenthood well, while the ones that are a little more fragile could possibly fall apart during such trying times. Remember that it’s just sex, and your sex lives will return to normal eventually. Sex isn’t the only reason you picked your partner, they’re also your best friend.

To have a happy, successful, long-term relationship filled with respect, understanding, love and desire for intimacy is not something that happens every day. If you have it please, do not take it for granted. It is very important to know what to do to maintain the harmony in the relationship, but you need to know what can distort and destroy the thing you are trying to build for so long.

The feelings of loneliness are one of the most common reasons why girls betray their partners. Although it may sound contradictory that one girl in a relationship can be lonely she may feel emotionally unfulfilled.

This may be the case when the partner is too busy with work or if he spends more time with his friend than with her while she spends her time alone. Sometimes women may feel insecure and may betray him just to prove herself that she is in shape. She very often feels that her partner doesn’t pay enough attention and she makes him notice some bad things and behavior on her side.

The problems in many relationships are a direct consequence of insufficient and ineffective communication. The silence you can call “the relationship killer” it is present when any of the partners begins to live in a world without desire to share feelings with the other. The avoidance of the problems will never contribute to their solution but only to their storage.

The jealousy in one relationship is like a salt in food. This means that in small dose can improve the relationship but when you cross the border becomes obsessive and it becomes a quiet killer of the relationship.

Men are emotional and want the women to show them how much she appreciates and wants him. But they do not admit it as openly as women. When women want attention they will require, but men will not. Men do not betray just for sex. They feel a connection with other women where the sex is just a consequence.
Therefore, if you are afraid of infidelity, focus towards the emotional connection with your partner, as the infidelity can destroy not only your youth but your life.

What will not kill you-will make you stronger!

It was not clear if they had already had some sort of warning about blood clots, or if they didn’t have any at all, but to my understanding pretty much any female contraceptive containing synthetic hormones has to carry this risk warning in one form or another, because any estrogen based pill carries with it the risk for increased blood clot occurrence.

It is known that HRT, or Hormone Replacement Therapy in women at later ages increased the risks of heart disease and also breast cancer, but those were more serious forms of hormone replacement, whereas many pills now are actually lower doses of hormones.  I can’t wait til the day I can get off the pill. I really hate having to put synthetic hormones in my body every day.

Although, on the upside women who have been on the pill for several consecutive years may actually have a greater chance of living longer, if some recent findings in the medical community are accurate. Only caveat is that these were women who started off on the old school pills and stuck with them for years.

For instance, when you start farting in bed, that’s kind of when you know the constant facade of romances and perfection is over. And shoot, that usually happens after your first year together. But that doesn’t mean that you don’t love or respect eachother, it just means that you’re comfy enough with one another to let one rip here and there and have a laugh about it. No biggie, right? Happens in all long term relationships and marriages!

Shoot, I can’t tell you how many times my wife and I, who have been together for eight years now, have actually started laughing before we have sex, while we’re having foreplay time, or during sex because something funny happened to set us into laughing spells.  It’s ok  – not every moment is going to be a story book romance, and if you can’t get used to that, and more importantly, if she can’t, then there will be problems down the line.

You see, there’s a little thing called reality. And unfortunately a lot of these romances novels and movies tend to gloss over that little seven letter word, and give us (especially women) unrealistic views about modern romance and relationships.

People just don’t talk like that, and they don’t act like they first met forever. Intensity goes away, and what you are left with in the end after the initial intense sexual attraction fades, is whether you truly dig eachother on an emotional and spiritual level. If you don’t, well then, you just don’t last, and you go your separate ways.

Lasting love is really all about loving eachother’s souls and dealing with your shortcomings in a way that kind of laughs at the situation.  If you can’t have a sense of humor about life, then you may as well throw in the towel, because relationships are full of flaws, in the end it’s about how much you love the person for who they are.

Women have a reputation as being more sensitive than men are. This is because often times, we are just simply a little more in tune with our emotions, and we tend to pick up on the little nuances of behavior and reactions that we see in people’s eyes and their faces and voices.

Sometimes too, it’s just the difference between how men and women communicate. Not only with eachother, but with all others in general, that gets us into hot water with the opposite of sex. I can tell you many times that my husband has said something that he thought was totally hilarious, but that I might have found offensive or insulting, and how many times I have ignored him and thought he wouldn’t notice, but he does.

The key to keeping a good relationship though, is open communication. Heck, if you don’t understand something your partner has said to you, then ask them for crying out loud – when has it become such a burden to do that? And I’ll never understand the married couples who just stop communicating. Let it out, argue, yell, get your point across, and then if you still can’t see eye to eye, you know there may be larger issues at work.

Things like that will melt a woman’s heart, and even get her in the mood to do some of the naughtier things that you’ve been trying to get her to do for years.  You wanted her to try some kinky role playing game for years? She may be game after you surprise her with romantic flowers and a nice bottle of wine and a dinner on that special day. Trust me, I know, I’m a woman after all.

Women really also like it when you show a concerted effort to get along with and get to know her family and her friends. She loves it when she can invite friends over and not have to feel awkward or embarrassed by your lack of enthusiasm for getting to know them or talking to them, so make a concerted effort to do these things, and she’ll be a wild tigress in bed the next time – I swear.

Women are just turned on by more of the little things in life, while men are more turned on and happy by other things – a lot of them sexual!

Of course, I’ll acknowledge that the economy and the huge amount of jobless people and pay-reduced people is probably causing some definite marital and relationship strife, since many times couples argue about money, no shock there, but do you think it actually increases domestic abuse occurrences as well? I’m not sure, there could be some sort of correlation, but it also sounds like a bit of a stretch.

What I really want to know is, are there actual numbers and statistics that are supporting this type of statement? I’d be very interested to see it, because it’s just another reason why we need to get the economy fixed. Of course, they say that finances often split people apart, but there is the other argument (let me play devil’s advocate here), that people stay together for financial reasons as well.

Look at our society today. Most couples cannot live on one single income any more like it used to be. Most families has working moms and working dads, unless they just make due with one smaller salary, or one partner actually makes a ton of money at their job.

Also, divorce is very costly. You often have to split your assets, you lose your tax benefits of being married, and you essentially lose a room mate with whom to share your living expenses. Romantic, huh? But it’s the truth. Men and women alike suffer financially in a divorce situation. What I do want to know, is there anything to this domestic abuse rising claim due to the economy?

Here he is, he’s blessed with this awesome talent to play golf, he’s got millions and millions of dollars in endorsements because the world perceives him as this nice, stable family guy type, and because his endorsers know that and they want to capitalize on that, he’s got a gorgeous wife and two beautiful children. And yet, he still needs MORE. And by more, I mean more women, more kinky sex, and more risky behavior.

As the plot thickened and more and more women came forward, it became painfully apparent that Tiger Woods is quite a sick individual that needs help and spiritual guidance if he is going to, or even cares to, save his family. Many of the women have come forward and they are porn stars, or used to be paid for sex, things like that, so he wasn’t even having a discreet affair with women who usually don’t do this kind of stuff, he was engaging in risky behavior.

One of them I think now is even saying that she got pregnant twice from her affair with Woods, so sad to say, he probably wasn’t even using protection and has put his wife at risk as well. That’s just disgusting. I think, like most other self respecting women, his wife is probably thoroughly disgusted with his actions, and I honestly don’t know if such a high profile, obviously embarrassing and hurtful thing he’s done to her can ever be repaired.

Even if they did stay together, I doubt she could ever trust him again, and what kind of life does this make for them and their children? This is truly a huge obstacle if they want to stay together, so we’ll see what happens, but his wife’s absence from being seen with him or in support of him is definitely a sign that she may be telling him to hit the road. And who could blame her?

This topic was so odd that I had to keep listening. They were talking about how they heard that if you put a little bit of your own urine – yes, your own pee, on your neck or other pulse points where you would normally apply cologne to, it actually acts as a pheromone “cologne” to attract women.

Why would your own body waste act as a pheromone? Well, supposedly, and this is a very dubious claim if you ask me, pheromones are secreted in your urine, and by applying it to yourself topically, you can benefit from the additional mojo that you’re putting off by emitting more of these attraction hormones to the world. Sounds kinda like hooey to me, so I went out and tried to do a little research, or what little research there might be, so that just in case any of you might be willing to dab a little bit of your own excrement on, you could know if there was anything to this theory.

While it is true that SOME pheromones may be excreted via the urine in humans, it is mostly secreted in the urine of other mammals, think dogs, primates, etc. Humans differ a little, in that their pheromones which help to express the desire to copulate to the opposite of sex, and serve as a means to further the human race from a biological evolutionary standpoint, are mostly expressed from their skin.

Mainly, you express a lot of pheromones from your underarms, through your sweat, so if you want to benefit from the natural pheromones you produce, maybe switch to a natural deodorant so it doesn’t mask your natural scent as much, instead of smearing your own pee on yourself!