Just as the years have proffered several “myths” and wives tales about foods and natural substances that can get you horny, er, in the mood that is, there are actually some foods and supplements that really DO make you get in the mood a lot quicker, and can also enhance your performance and pleasure in the boudoire as well.

Folate, which is a nutrient that is found in leafy green, deeply pigmented vegetables and even some fruits (but mostly veggies), can dramatically increase the quality of your sperm. Some even think it might increase the volume of semen, which is one way to experience more intense, fulfilling ograsms, such as with the popular supplement Volume Pills.

Foods that are rich in folate are spinach, kale, greens, and other dark leafy green veggies (no, plain iceberg lettuce does not fit the bill, it is basically a nutritional void, aside from the fiber it contains), and even some citrus fruits contain folate, which seems somewhat counterintuitive since it seems only green veggies have it.

Another food that actually has merit as a sexual potency enhancer, but is also a well known “wives tale” are oysters. Oysters contain a powerhouse nutrient for the male sexual appetite and performance, zinc. Zinc is a key ingredient in many male sexual enhancement products, and it is a vital nutrient to the male reproductive system.

Dark chocolate is  a sexual enhancer for women, as well as for men.  So, those of us (women and men) who wondered why we love chocolate so much, there are reasons other than its delicious taste that are to credit! 

Dark chocolate is rich in something called L-Arginine, which helps to open up the blood vessels and add more sensation to the nether regions for both men and women. In other words, L-Arginine opens the way for the sexual organs that are responsible for sexual excitement to gorge with blood more easily, and become more sensitive to sensations.

You’ve heard of PTSD, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, a disorder that many men and women in the service have experienced, as well as men and women who have undergone some other traumatic and scarring event in their life time.

Well, this one I never heard of until now, and it certainly doesn’t sound like a cup of tea for anyone, especially for those of us who immensely enjoy sex and whom without this enjoyable part of being a red blooded guy, would probably think that life wasn’t much worth living without it’s joys.

This is a disorder that is very rare, but it is a real disorder that has real effects on the men that have it.  Men who have POIS actually get physically sick every time after they ejaculate.  The symptoms after ejaculation can range from hives and rashes, to mental fogginess, to actually throwing up and getting really sick every time.

It almost sounds like some sort of punishment, does it not?  Scientists think that the reason for this mysterious and thankfully rare disorder is that the men are actually allergic to their own semen in some way. Releasing the semen via ejaculation leads to some sort of allergic reaction where the men experience many different symptoms that seem bizarre.

Some men are so scared to have sex that they just stop all together. Some men actually have to plan sex with their partners around POIS so that they don’t have to miss important events after they have sex because they are indisposed.  Others simply give up all together and just become celibate.

The good news is that some men with POIS have good luck with taking NSAIDs, which are Nonsteroidal anti inflammatories, before they have sex, mostly a few hours before hand, then have sex. For some reason, this may help with the allergic reaction that sets off a chain of events that is definitely unpleasant for the guy.

Sometimes, premature ejaculation may also be associated with this disorder, and that may be due to the fact that these men go long periods between sex. That alone can make you succumb to the excitement quickly and suffer premature ejaculation. Also, it may contribute to low libido since a man associates sexual excitement with pain and discomfort, and can contribute to impotence as well.

My wife and I love to use erotic oils and lubricants. We like to use lubricants not only for personal lubrication for both of us, but also for when I get that twinkle in my eye that I’d like to have a different kind of sex, if you know what I mean. For those women who are terrified of anal sex, you probably haven’t been properly prepped for it. It can actually feel really good for a woman, if she is properly prepared. However, it can be very painful if not properly prepared.

My discussion today is about personal, sexual lubricants that are scented or perhaps flavored.  If they are either of those two, you MUST make sure that you will not have any sort of a reaction to them by applying it to a small area of the body first to see if it feels ok on your skin.

Not only that, but if a lubricant is scented or especially if it is flavored, you have to make sure that it is ok for internal use, not just external. For example, if you buy a cinnamon or strawberry flavored sex gel, then you want to make sure it doesn’t say “external use only” if you are planning on actually having sexual relations after the gel has already been applied to the penis.

They are always clearly labeled, because no sexual lubricant maker wants to be sued for something like that!  Some of my favorite scented ones to use are KY jelly personal lubricant with spearmint scent.  There are also other scents as well, that add a nice aromatic feel to your sexual interlude. It’s kind of fun, because it adds another sensory pleasure to your whole experience.

The other flavored stuff I’ve used was strawberry and it was for external use only, so that is good for foreplay, say if you want to lick it off of eachother’s body or if you want your partner to perform oral sex (for men only since our penis is external, lucky us).  Scented and flavored sexual treats can really add fun and spice to your relationship and sex life if you know how to pick ‘em!

The most sensitive areas of the male penis are of course going to differ slightly depending on the guy. However, as it is with female sexual anatomy, there is pretty much a rule of thumb that is rarely broken when it comes to the most sensitive, erogenous part of their sexual organ.

That part for men is the head of the penis, and it is especially sensitive around the rim, or ridge of the penis that is at the very tip.  If you’re a woman reading this, test this theory out on your man, and you will find that the tip of the penis is extremely sensitive. For women, the most sensitive area tends to be her clitoris, although this can also vary per woman.

The reason that any part of the body is more sensitive to touch, and therefore more easily sexually aroused, is that it contains more nerve endings than other parts of the body.  Nerve endings send signals to the brain in the form of pain or pleasure, depending on what’s going on outside of the body, and the body interprets these signals and dictates how you feel about this form of touch.

One of the best ways to help make the most our of this male hot spot is to pay a lot of attention to when it is being manually stimulated by hand or by mouth.  Gentle licking, touching, pulling and light stroking is the best way to help your man out and make him quiver with pleasure and anticipation at what’s next.

Of course, for the guys, pay attention to the clitoris on a woman. Women love when men manually stimulate this area VERY GENTLY with their fingers.  Some guys may go too rough, and that’s really not pleasurable. Ask your lady what the right amount of pressure is for this highly sensitive erogenous zone and she’ll be happy to tell you – don’t be shy!

Hey guys, David here with a free (and I do mean no money is involved at all, this is all on you my friend) tip on how to experience the best sex you’ll ever have in your life.  Lots of guys, actually probably the majority of them, do not know that their breathing, or lack thereof, during sex, is what holds them back both from achieving the ultimate orgasms and highest pleasure attainable, but also from being able to perform consistently, without stopping, and also to perform as long as they possibly can (aka, not be the one minute man or the two pump chump).

If the correct breathing weren’t so important, then tantric sex teachers wouldn’t focus so much on this one aspect of your sexual prowess now, would they?  Let’s talk about why proper breathing is so important for great sex.

First off, it is vital to your oxygen supplies. With each breath, you are inhaling precious oxygen into your lungs, where it is processed, sent to the blood, and lends itself to your energy and endurance levels, both totally essential for going for a long time, and being able to perform the task in the first place.

Breathing techniques such as those used in relaxation exercises like yoga and tai chi and meditation are also key to calming the mind and basically forcing it to focus and be “quiet”. When you can focus all of your thoughts and energy “in the moment”, guess how much better you experience is going to be?

Men tend to have a very hard time with breathing properly, and this can really encumber your chances of having both great orgasms, frequent orgasms, and having long, drawn out, satisfying sexual interludes.

If you want to learn the proper breathing techniques, try deep breathing exercises or enroll yourself in a yoga class. Yoga is not just for women any more. Have you seen the bodies on some of the guys who are seriously into yoga? Try Sting, David Duchovny, Ricky Martin, and lots more stars who have great bodies and you know they’re out there having great sex too….

I read a great article that really struck a cord with me, especially as a woman who always complains that there is never enough foreplay in our sex lives.  Women generally really like foreplay with their sexual interludes. That is, unless we’re behind on laundry and the dishes and we need you to do a wham bam thank you mam, and the sex really wasn’t our idea at that moment.  He he.  Just kidding, but not really. You see, women are constantly thinking about what they need to do next, and they are always planning their next chore or goal, that’s just how women work.

So, sometimes we may not be totally focused on sex unless it’s after a party where we’ve drank a lot and we’ve flirted our asses off with you all night. Just sayin.  However, for those times when both of you are into getting hot and heavy, it’s important to really draw out the foreplay aspect of sex.  As they say, the longer it takes to get to something, the more you want it.

Foreplay, good foreplay at least, makes it so that your every cell is quivering for the final act by the time it comes around. When there is no foreplay, our bodies – both men and women’s are not adequately primed for sex.  I know that “primed” makes us sound like we’re a pump or a lawn mower or something, but hey, our bodies are, after all, somewhat of a mechanical device.  Especially when it comes to sex.

There are certain parts that are uber sensitive to touch, and if you start tempting each part with a light touch, a little lick, a lingering suck, then you are really priming the pump so to speak so that the final orgasm will be a summit of pleasure for each partner, and you feel closer to eachother every time you do it. This isn’t to say that you’ll always have the extra time (or imagination) that it takes to do the foreplay thing the right way every time.

Lord knows the quicky has it’s time and place, and that will never change. Just be careful that your sex life doesn’t become only made up of quickies. That can quickly lead to stagnation in your sex life as partners, so you want to make the time to do it right once a week  – pick a day on the weekend when you don’t have much going on, and stick to that schedule.

So, the Tiger Woods scandal has caused yet another wave of excitement, intrigue and questions.  One of his alleged mistresses said that she and Tiger enjoyed many sexcapades after taking Ambien, apparently, or assumedly, as a sexual enhancement product in this capacity.  However, there is actually no scientific backing to the assumption that this or any other sleep aid would really enhance the sexual experience, other than maybe it may make a person less inhibited, or potentially relax them to a point almost like a roofie would, making the sexual experience more like a drugged up, pleasant experience.

I myself have never even taken Ambien to make a judgment call as to whether it may or may not make sex much more fun or more uninhibited, so I can’t really say for sure whether I might agree with this assessment. As for doctors who know this drug and it’s generic counterpart, they say that there is absolutely no side effect like sexual enhancement for the drug, nor should there be, however there could always be the placebo effect.

Has any of our readers ever experienced a heightened sexual experience on Ambien or some other similar sleeping aid drug?  If so, please write and tell us all about your experience.  Who knows, maybe there is a whole subculture out there that has been doing this and we don’t even know it, or of course, it could just be a lot of hot air.

Hey guys, Jill here once again, giving you the female perspective on something that we all do, we all love, and we all can’t live without. No, I’m not talking about eating, I’m talking about masturbation. Heck, let’s just get this out in the open, most of us who are married still take some time out to have a little autoeroticism in the bedroom, or wherever else it is that we happen to like a little private masturbation time to ourselves.

And fellas, this does not just apply to the men.  Let me assure you, we women still like to masturbate as well, even when we do have partners,  we just might be a little more discreet and a little less forthcoming about it to our partners and our friends during sex discussions.

The reason I’m writing this right now is because, as I was thinking about what would be a good time to run off and pleasure myself the other day, I thought of how long I’d been doing it without even knowing what it was for sure.  I remember that when I started to have sexual urges, before I even totally hit puberty – I mean, we’re talking pretty young here, like before the age of 11, I started experimenting with touching myself down there.

Not only that, I experimented with some boys as well, although what we engaged in was really nothing but a little bit of touching and rubbing, nothing serious at all, and no clothes came off at all either.  I guess you could call it “playing doctor”.

I remember asking my parents about these feelings, because I felt overhwhelmingly guilty about it, and one of my parents, whom I shall not name, completely shut me down, they did not want to talk about it at all, and I actually found that devastating, like I really had done something wrong and filthy and shameful and dirty.  This really carried with me for a long time, and I thought about how parents really should sit their kids down, whether they are  boys or girls, and tell them all about how sexual feelings are normal.

In my opinion, this should be done sooner than later. I don’t think that some parents realize how early on girls start having sexual urges because well, they’re girls and society just isn’t molded to think that way.  If I would have been sat down and told what behavior was appropriate and not appropriate, or what was normal to feel, I would have felt a little better about my urges and not felt so guilty and ashamed.

I think that a lot of adults today still have guilt and shame feelings about masturbating, but it really is a natural, healthy expression of sexual urges, and shouldn’t be as taboo as it is, after all, it’s a lot better than sleeping around and putting yourself at risk for STD’s and pregnancy!

What better present to give yourself for Christmas, or whatever other holiday you might be celebrating around this time of year, than the gift of better, more relaxing, stress relieving, mood boosting sex?  After all, aren’t those some of the fringe benefits of sex that we tend to forget about when we think of sexual intimacy?  We don’t really always think about all the other benefits that sexual intimacy that is satisfying actually lend to our lives.  We tend to think of it as either a quick, fun romp that feels good (it should at least!), or some of us unfortunately even look at sex as a chore.

However, if you are a man and are looking for a great sexual gift for your women this holiday, then try one of the female sexual enhancement supplements that has been derived from nature to help elevate a woman’s natural sensitivities to allow her to enjoy sex more often and crave it more often. Many times, the same type of principle applies to woman’s sexual enhancement as it does for men’s, except some women’s sexual enhancement products may also employ mood booster herbs and things that also happen to increase blood flow and energy levels.

All these things together make for a woman’s great sexual experiences since women tend to think of sex more readily when they actually have the energy to expend on it and are not overburdened or stressed, and also they tend to think of it more when more blood is flowing to the right areas, namely the vulva, the vagina and the clitoris, which swells up when a woman is sexually excited and allows her to enjoy the sensations sexual intercourse has to offer more readily.

For men, male sexual enhancement products tend to focus on a two pronged approach, at least those that are herbal, while things like Viagra and Levitra tend to focus solely on blood flow. Natural male enhancement products focus on two things usually, energy enhancement which helps a guy go for a longer time in bed, and also sexual potency, and blood flow.  These two things in tandem help a guy not only get in the mood and stay in the mood, but they also help immensely with endurance in the sack. What better way to brighten the holiday than a much needed energy infusion into your sex life with your loved one?

There are any number of sexual performance anxiety fears in both men and women, however, men tend to feel it a little more since their sexual organ, the penis, is something that can only perform as long as it is erect, while a woman really only needs to worry about her moves and whether or not she may become dry during the sex act.  Men have a little more to worry about though, especially since a lot of men put unreasonable expectations on themselves when it comes to pleasing women in the sack, thanks to a lot of movies that make it look like making love several times a night or for hours is a normal thing for men.  It simply is not.

Something that can compound a man’s performance anxiety is whether or not he has had sexual problems in the past that have prevented him from totally pleasing a sexual partner or he’s been told that he’s a bad lover by someone who wants to hurt him badly.  Don’t laugh, this stuff actually happens, especially when a relationship has gone sour and someone wants to just hurt the other person!

If a guy hasn’t actually had sex, besides the kind that he can perform by self pleasuring for a while, then he might also experience a lot of anxiety about his sexual prowess, as if he’s sort of forgotten how to be a with a woman. Or he may feel weird because he’s been divorced and hasn’t been with a new woman in several years. He may think he lost his game, or that he’s not really going to know what turns a new lover on, so there’s always a certain degree of anxiety when you are with a new lover for the first few times.