Pleasing Women

Lack of Female Sexual Enhancement Drugs Frustrating

Hey everyone, Jill here again talking about a problem that plagues more women than our men would like to think unfortunately.  For many women, and I’m talking to the tune of maybe 70% or more, as I believe personally that numbers are underreported on this problem,  orgasms and even the desire to have sex very often or the female libido, is lacking so much that they eventually lose the interest in having sex with their partner at all.

I think that women in general are more susceptible to sexual burnout when it comes to being with a partner for a long time, because we are such psychological creatures when it comes to sex.  We tend to need new stimulus, and often times, when we are so busy with work, kids, and chores around the house, we tend to lose focus of how much fun we used to have in the sack with our life partners.

There is an overall frustration with the lack of studies being done on female sexual enhancement and sexual satisfaction drugs and products because there is SO MUCH attention on the male aspect of this issue.

Heck, they even get medical coverage often times for impotence and sexual enhancement drugs like Viagra and Cialis. Not that I’m begrudging any man of that right, but let’s face it, it’s frustrating for the ladies who have the same issue but so much less attention on them and also less outlets in which to get help for them.

You do have to wonder why this is, is it because most of the researchers doing this research for drug companies are men? Or maybe drug companies just don’t feel like women care as much about their libido, or that they would actually go out and buy sexual enhancement drugs for themselves, and so they don’t think that there is a real market for it.

There’s gotta be a marketing reason behind it somewhere, or else some company would be making beaucoup bucks off of this huge need that needs to be filled – he he, no pun intended ladies!

Ladies Pick Foxier Clothes While Ovulating

Women really do a lot of things subconsciously when they are ovulating which they are not fully consciously aware of, but that nonetheless weild a stealthy power over their decisions and actions when they are at their most fertile time of the month – aka ovulating.

For those of you who aren’t too familiar with the female anatomical workings, ovulation is the brief period of time each month when a women drops an egg down into the area where it is most easily fertilized by a man’s sperm. It’s the most fertile ground for sexual intercourse to make babies in other words! 

Female’s libido and sexuality is a little different than men’s in that there are a lot of subconscious factors going into her mate choices and her other choices that bring her to sexual situations.

There have already been studies proving that women go for more masculine men when they are ovulating if they are single (or heck, sometimes even if they’re not if they’re straying). This makes complete sense, since nature is pretty much perfect and will find a way to perpetuate itself. It’s natures’ way of making us want to multiple basically.

Now, a new study shows that females who are ovulating not only go for more masculine men (broader shoulders, deeper voices, etc.), but they also tend to pick out sexier clothes when shopping, and may even pick out sexier clothes when they are dressing for those days.

This also makes sense when you think about natural selection and the sort of “survival of the fittest” game. Women are basically putting their body’s out there subconsciously, attracting mates, whether they like it or not, to them, when they are at their most fertile.

And there was no difference between women who were in partnerships or single, they all basically dressed more provocatively when they were ovulating. So whether women have a partner or not, they are looking to mate during this time of month, whether they like it or not.

New Female Aphrodisiac Discussion

Hey guys, Jill here to talk to you about something very serious and close to my own personal heart – of course!

We have a new page dedicated to the often-elusive female libido and orgasm potential.  Women notoriously have a hard time getting in the mood, especially when they’ve been in a relationship for a while and may have kids, chores and work to think about on top of pleasing their partner.

It’s not easy job for the ladies, but there are natural supplements made with herbs and other natural female libido enhancers the help “prime the pump” so to speak and address the physiological side of the female libido and orgasming.

Lack of sexual desire if a big complaint in a lot of marriages, and it’s important to ensure that the female libido remains where it should be – at levels it was at when the hormones were raging when she first met her partner and sexual desire came much easier without all the pressures of daily life eeking in and wrecking havoc on one’s sex life.

So without further ado, go to our new female aphrodisiacs and libido enhancers page and see what you can be doing for yourself if you’re a woman, or for your lady love if you’re the lady’s lover man.

Most Women Find Orgasms Evasive

Hey guys, Jill here.  As a woman, I can tell you, most women, like me, find it harder to orgasm than men do. We have to focus on having one most of the time, unless we are hyper sexualized and can feel things a lot more at that all too important pleasure dome, the clitoris.

Would it surprise you, whether you are a man or a woman reading this right now, that about 2 in three women consistently do not orgasm when they have sex? This is compared to a much smaller portion of the male population.  Guys have it pretty good when it comes to sexual pleasure and libido while the female libido is a bit more elusive and tricky to conjure up.

Not only do they orgasm much more easily than a woman because their “plumbing” is just much more simple that way, but they also have access to  the most effective sexual enhancement drugs like Levitra and Cialis and let’s not forget Viagra.  They have it made when it comes to building an empire in sexual satisfaction basically.

Women are more complex creatures. Yes, we have the clitoris which can produce mountain of ecstasy and pleasure when it is manipulated correctly by our partners (or ourselves of course), but we also have it much harder when it comes to actually “coming” from sexual intercourse.

Vaginal orgasms are even  more hard to come by than exterior, clitoris stimulated orgasms. Vaginal orgasms feel absolutely amazing, but they require us to be pretty much be in the most focused, zen state of mind to be able to have them like this. Hmm, maybe this is why women tend to be a little more prone to depression than men!

We also correlate sexual pleasure a lot more with our thoughts and our feelings than men do. So, if we’re a little peeved at something or can’t get stress or work off of our mind, or if we’re mad at our partner or resentful, it becomes that much harder for us to conjure up any sort of orgasmic pleasure.

If a pharmaceutical or herbal remedy company came up with some sort of female libido enhancement product that addressed every issue of a woman’s orgasm and had her having them on a frequent basis, I’m telling you, they’d be instant billionaires. Heck, I’d definitely buy it!

Pheromones and Attraction

There are many ways on how to attract the opposite sex for various socializing types. The most wanted attraction and used attraction is the sexual one. Natural starters of attraction are Pheromones, body chemicals that are capable of influencing other individual’s behavior.

Males are the producers of these pheromones, and while some are “visible” to the smell sent, scientist claim that there are male pheromones that only the female can feel and recognize. What is more interesting, these pheromones are subconsciously sent to females.

As every male body differs from the other, differences in pheromones levels appear also; some with high level some with low level. Today’s perfume industry has taken this pheromone affect into serious element for producing perfume with pheromones in it; the goal – to make less attractive males more noticeable for the opposite sex.

When pheromone-containing perfumes (see our overview of pheromones) started becoming a sensation, various tests were made to see weather it will take action. An interesting test was made in a conference room where 20 CEOs of a big company held their meetings; 4 of the CEO’s where females and 5 CEO assistants where also present. Before the meting began, a certain amount of a perfume with pheromones was sprayed on his chair. This was done in order to preserve the secrecy in the research.

When the meeting started, in short time, all the CEO females were glancing the less attractive male, the assistants were doing the same too. On the break, all the females were sat around him to chat a little. The attraction continued after the meeting when they seemed friendly to the bachelor CEO. It seems that the perfume has done its mission even after the meeting. It has stuck to its clothes from the chair.

This test was one of the many that where done in order to prove the efficiency of perfume with pheromones in them.   Another interesting fact about Pheromones is that they don’t have to be effective when there is a female around, meaning; they possess a kind of post-productive effect. Males produce pheromones to attract women even without a female being present. So, pheromones are easily attached to male clothes. There are many situations when women start feeling sexually aroused when the smell a man’s shirt.

In spite of all pheromones and perfumes, male and female find attraction in the way they socialize and communicate. It doesn’t matter weather he produces pheromones or not, if there is a material for conversation and sense of humor, then attraction has began without applying a perfume.

“Female Viagra” Flibanserin, Rejected by FDA

I had talked a few weeks ago about a new libido boosting pill that was being reviewed by the FDA for approval called Flibanserin.

It was supposed to be, or hoped to be, the equivalent to the popular impotence and sexual enhancement drugs for men like Viagra and Levitra for women, who have long gone without a drug equivalent in the sexual arena while men have enjoyed the sex boosting benefits of drugs like these.

However, there are some great natural alternatives for women to increase their libido and enhance the female sex drive and orgasmic value that are out there too, so fear not.  It would be nice to have a prescription option as well though, so many women with chronic low sexual desire may find this disappointing news.

The drug was turned down for approval by the FDA recently, citing safety concerns and possible interactions with other drugs as the reason.

Interestingly enough, Flibanserin started off being studies as an antidepressant, and when it was discovered that women on the pill were reporting unusually higher incidence of sexual desire and sexual satisfaction, it was then that the drug was looked at as a possible ongoing treatment for female libido and sexual satisfaction.

The drug interacts with seratonin and helps improve this natural feel good chemical in the body, which probably explains the increase in sexual response and sexual desire.

FDA panelists did not feel that the sexual benefit compared to the recommended daily treatment of the pill was beneficial enough to warrant it’s approval as a female sexual improvement drug, so it was denied approval for this purpose.

Panelists also noticed that the side effects, which included some definite dampeners, including fatigue, depression (how ironic since this drug was originally looked at as an antidepressant, makes you wonder how valid some of these studies are), dizziness and fainting spells, simply didn’t justify it’s clinical use as a sexual improvement drug.

Well ladies, I guess we’ll have to wait on a true female Viagra type drug to come out.

For Women, Sexual Arousal is More in the Brain

We’ve hashed this over many times before, I know, but I feel that it’s important to talk about because both men and women sometimes think that women can be treated for low sexual desire by addressing the sexual organ’s response itself.

This is all the while that the brain issues are not addressed adequately, or any emotional issues going on behind that scenes that are causing a lack of sexual arousal in their lives, which doesn’t provide for a comprehensive or lasting solution for sexual arousal.

Female sexual enhancement products often address things like blood flow to the genital area. And while this helps women immensely like it does for men, there are also several natural chemicals that can be useful for helping to “calm” the brain and release the chemicals that are not only responsible for pleasure, but are also responsible for sexual desire.

If you are a woman, then you know it’s much easier to become sexually aroused when you are feeling mellow and content than it is when you are stressed out, angry or depressed or anxious about something.

It really doesn’t help when you are resenting your partner or are harboring feelings of anger toward them.  All of these feelings can be helped by not only talking them out honestly with your partner, but also by taking female sexual enhancement supplements that address the problem of low libido in women comprehensively, not just topically.

Both women and men often think that it’s a little easier than it actually is to successfully fix a woman’s low sexual desire. But HSDD (hypoactive sexual desire disorder) can often be a lot more complicated and therefore more frustrating than just going about the “usual” methods of treatment.

For this reason, there have been numerous attempts at creating a female Viagra type of sexual disorder pill that women with persistent issues can take.

The latest attempt at a “female Viagra” though, has failed.  The drug flibanserin, while it looked promising in preliminary trials, was not approved by the FDA because the evidence that it helped enough with female libido was not compelling enough to outweigh the potential side effects.

Prolactin Dampens Sexual Arousal for Women

This is Jill here guys, with a woman’s perspective on something that only women can do – give birth to the beautiful babies of this world.  And, as a woman who has not yet ever given birth myself, and may never do at any point, I may not be the most qualified to talk about it, but I’m going to.

I’ve always wondered how new mothers even try to fit in sexual activity with their partners when they have a new infant to deal with. In fact, most women do say that they’re not even sure how to do the most basic of things when they are new moms, especially for the first time, when they are just figuring out how to be a good mother.  One thing that is particularly frustrating for both new parents, the mom and dad, is the lack of sexual desire on the part of the woman.

Many times, men still have the same sexual desire they had before, although they may be somewhat dampened from the often sleepless nights and nervousness that comes with having a little one around.  This can definitely become a source of tension in a marriage, and it’s important to talk about it with your spouse of significant other, so that you know what the expectations should be.

Not only are the nervousness and inability to get full nights of sleep, let alone figure out what the baby wants 24/7 a constant interrupter of peace and any sexual impulses you might have, but also women deal with another obstacle to even having the faintest glimmer of a desire to get busy.  Prolactin, a hormone that is secreted when a woman is breast feeding her baby, actually has been found to suppress sexual desire in women.

As if nature weren’t cruel enough in new motherhood in other ways to our bodies with raging hormones and often times a touch of post partum depression, she also had to throw the wrench of adding more reasons for us not wanting to have sex. Thanks mother nature, we owe you one for that!  The mother is more intent on bonding with her infant as well, which may take a lot of the attention off of her relationship, and of course that can add to the unspoken tension in the relationship as well.

One thing is for sure, the solid, long standing relationships will weather new parenthood well, while the ones that are a little more fragile could possibly fall apart during such trying times. Remember that it’s just sex, and your sex lives will return to normal eventually. Sex isn’t the only reason you picked your partner, they’re also your best friend.

How to Extend Foreplay

I read a great article that really struck a cord with me, especially as a woman who always complains that there is never enough foreplay in our sex lives.  Women generally really like foreplay with their sexual interludes. That is, unless we’re behind on laundry and the dishes and we need you to do a wham bam thank you mam, and the sex really wasn’t our idea at that moment.  He he.  Just kidding, but not really. You see, women are constantly thinking about what they need to do next, and they are always planning their next chore or goal, that’s just how women work.

So, sometimes we may not be totally focused on sex unless it’s after a party where we’ve drank a lot and we’ve flirted our asses off with you all night. Just sayin.  However, for those times when both of you are into getting hot and heavy, it’s important to really draw out the foreplay aspect of sex.  As they say, the longer it takes to get to something, the more you want it.

Foreplay, good foreplay at least, makes it so that your every cell is quivering for the final act by the time it comes around. When there is no foreplay, our bodies – both men and women’s are not adequately primed for sex.  I know that “primed” makes us sound like we’re a pump or a lawn mower or something, but hey, our bodies are, after all, somewhat of a mechanical device.  Especially when it comes to sex.

There are certain parts that are uber sensitive to touch, and if you start tempting each part with a light touch, a little lick, a lingering suck, then you are really priming the pump so to speak so that the final orgasm will be a summit of pleasure for each partner, and you feel closer to eachother every time you do it. This isn’t to say that you’ll always have the extra time (or imagination) that it takes to do the foreplay thing the right way every time.

Lord knows the quicky has it’s time and place, and that will never change. Just be careful that your sex life doesn’t become only made up of quickies. That can quickly lead to stagnation in your sex life as partners, so you want to make the time to do it right once a week  – pick a day on the weekend when you don’t have much going on, and stick to that schedule.

Financial Stress Lessening Sex for 45 Year Olds and Up?

Surveys and conventional wisdom in the past have showed us that those that are in their forties and above often enjoy active, uninhibited sex lives. While we tend to think of wild, hot sex as something that only twenty somethings enjoy sometimes, it’s really the opposite, we become more uninhibited and more able to enjoy sex as we get older, and our forties, especially for women, is when we tend to “ripen” for great sexual experiences.

Female sexual enhancement becomes very easy in our forties, because of a couple of things. First, women are less inhibited and worried about what others might think of her at this age, she is also more experienced and knows what she likes, and she also has hormones working in her favor as well.  While men tend to hit their sexual peaks in their twenties, women tend to hit their sexual peaks in their forties. Seems unfair, doesn’t it? But that’s the way mother nature has seen it fit for one reason or another, so we have to live with it.

When I think of myself, a woman in her mid thirties, I remember having some great sex when I was in my twenties, but I didn’t necessarily know what I was doing. I had never really given men good fellatio, and I never really knew how to ask a man to give me good oral either. I didn’t know what I wanted in terms of foreplay, and what kind of sex pleased me the most, and I certainly wasn’t sure that what I was doing was pleasing my partner either.

Now, in my mid thirties, I’ve experimented enough to be much more confident about my sexual prowess, and so I’ve released a lot of those inhibitions and can enjoy myself more now.  I’m looking forward to my forties actually!  It’s just a shame that when I look in the mirror, I look different than that twenty year old body

This conventional wisdom that we still enjoy sex immensely and abundantly at 45 and after has seemed to take a turn – and not for the better either. Apparently when surveyed now, people have answered that they don’t enjoy sex as often and they sited financial stress as the reason. This economy not only has affected a lot of other things, but apparently the new reality in the economy has also affected our dang sex lives!

It’s really too bad, but unfortunately a lot of men in this age bracket, and women, were affected by things like layoffs, and they were at such an age that they were paid very well and have tougher times finding comparable replacement jobs. I know so many people going through this still….it’s a shame, but maybe we just need to get out there and buy more sexual enhancement aids so at least that great, stress relieving part of our lives isn’t stymied so much!