Pleasing Women

Urine as a Pheromone Cologne? What?

I flip radio stations in the morning constantly. I’m between WNPR listening to the news, and when I get bored with that, I flip to other radio morning shows or a few other stations that actually play – omg, music(!) in the morning. I was flipping stations when I landed on one radio morning program that I try not to listen to because quite frankly it gets on my nerves sometimes, but occasionally they bring up an interesting topic and I find myself listening to them opine about it.

This topic was so odd that I had to keep listening. They were talking about how they heard that if you put a little bit of your own urine – yes, your own pee, on your neck or other pulse points where you would normally apply cologne to, it actually acts as a pheromone “cologne” to attract women.

Why would your own body waste act as a pheromone? Well, supposedly, and this is a very dubious claim if you ask me, pheromones are secreted in your urine, and by applying it to yourself topically, you can benefit from the additional mojo that you’re putting off by emitting more of these attraction hormones to the world. Sounds kinda like hooey to me, so I went out and tried to do a little research, or what little research there might be, so that just in case any of you might be willing to dab a little bit of your own excrement on, you could know if there was anything to this theory.

While it is true that SOME pheromones may be excreted via the urine in humans, it is mostly secreted in the urine of other mammals, think dogs, primates, etc. Humans differ a little, in that their pheromones which help to express the desire to copulate to the opposite of sex, and serve as a means to further the human race from a biological evolutionary standpoint, are mostly expressed from their skin.

Mainly, you express a lot of pheromones from your underarms, through your sweat, so if you want to benefit from the natural pheromones you produce, maybe switch to a natural deodorant so it doesn’t mask your natural scent as much, instead of smearing your own pee on yourself!

Does the “G Spot” Exist, or Not?

For decades and decades, there has been a belief that women possess something called the G spot, the magical area somewhere in the vicinity of the vagina, the vulva and the clitoris. We all know (women that is) that the clitoris can be the proverbial pathway to heaven for us, just as the area many call the taint on men, the area right between his scrotum and his penis that is soft and cushy, can cause great pleasure, and great pain if too much pressure is used, when it is manipulated the right way.

The theory is that women have this area where there are clusters of nerve endings that make her super sensitive there, so it is very susceptible to pleasure sensations when it is properly stimulated by her partner or by herself.  Men have tried for years, sometimes in vain, to find this spot on the women they bed or their partners, and there are indeed many women who report having one, but there are also a lot of women who do not think they have ever experienced an intense sensation of erotic pleasure by being touched in one certain place.

For many women, they just see general areas as erogenous zones where they like to be touched by their mate and pleasured.  To experiment, you can talk to your mate about doing a sort of experimentation session where she lies on her back and you gently feel around, in a sensual way of course, not clinical, what fun is that? To enhance the female sexual experience, experimentation is almost a must.

Experimenting is the only way that you find these erogenous zones, and scientists readily admit that they can’t prove there is any such thing as the G spot, because every woman’s anatomy is so different, and feelings of pleasure are so subjective between different women.

Lover’s Day Today!

What are you getting me?

So, it’s Valentine’s Day, guys and girls, and you’d better have something special planned, especially if you’re the guy, for your lady.  We girls tend to act like we don’t think V Day is such a big deal, but believe me, it doesn’t go unnoticed if you don’t get us squat!  I remember one year my then-boyfriend forgot to get me anything and I was more than a little bit peeved about it!  Don’t get me wrong, all I really want is chocolate, and he knows that now, but since he didn’t even get me anything I was fuming and wasn’t even willing to admit how hurt I was that he totally forgot to get me anything.

Chocolate is always good, and it is actually really somewhat of an aphrodisiac, that’s not a myth.  Wine is always good, and of course a nice romantic dinner to go with it is always fantastic, that way no one has to worry about doing the cooking – unless you get to the cooking later in bed if you know what I mean!  If you really want to please her, try out a great female sexual enhancement product on her, that’ll get both of your hearts pounding.

There are lots of ways to please your woman, but just make sure it’s thoughtful and planned out and that will impress her the most and also make her more inclined to be a bit more of a sex kitten in bed for you too. We ladies are very psychologically linked to our sex drives, so the more that you stimulate our egos and our minds, the more we want to please you in oh so many ways!

“Hung” a Great Show About a Guy with a Huge Penis

Thumbs WAY Up for "Hung"

Hey guys, Jill here, to discuss why I think that the new HBO show “Hung” – ok it’s not brand new any more, but I just started watching it on HBO on demand, and I think it’s a great show! I was skeptical at first, thinking it was just going to be HBO’s excuse for showing people having sex a lot of TV, because after all sex sells, and although it does show people having sex a lot, namely the main character, Ray Drecker played by Thomas Jane, there’s a lot more to this show than just penis, erections, and vagina and boobs.

Although, I must admit, even though I’m a women, I’m still a voyeur at heart, and I have to say that I love watching good looking people on film having sex and doing various other sexual deeds – it’s fun, and yes, it’s sort of a turn on if you must know – by the way guys, there are a LOT of women out there who enjoy watching porn and people having sex onscreen too, it’s not just guys as everyone seems to think sometimes.

And, of course, Thomas Jane is fun to look at and he attracts women like crazy, so that part pleases me as a woman greatly!  But the story is a really good one too, honestly, it’s not all about the flesh, albeit good looking flesh.  It’s about a down and out divorced father of two who has a modest paying job as a teacher and coach at a local high school, Ray Drecker. He really hits the skids when his only real possession, his house, burns down and he finds out he has no insurance to pay for the damage.

He attends a millionaire maker type of work shop, where he runs into an old one night stand named Tanya. Tanya’s not much to look at, but she’s got a big heart and they end up in the sack again together (like I said, there’s lots of sex in this show).  Through a series of consequence, they end up deciding to use Ray’s biggest asset – his abnormally large penis, as a business starter. Tanya becomes his “pimp” and they embark on a business venture, and misadventure as you see through several of the mishaps that happen in their first forays into paid sex.

You really feel for the guy though, that’s what makes this show good. Somehow Ray Drecker really resonates with me, because he’s just a regular guy, faced with possible cutbacks at his high school,  and barely making ends meet to begin with, who wants to make something of himself.  His ex wife is played by Anne Heche, and she’s really awesome in this role too, if not a bit weird looking because it looks like she really may have had too much Botox (this is part of the story line too, she’s married to a high end dermatologist, who she left Ray for).

Great show, I recommend you check it out!

Ladies, New Morning After Pill Holds Promise

It used to be that if you had an “oops” moment with your partner, or with a one time or occasional partner, however it was,  and it was unprotected sex, or the condom broke or something else happened where you feared you might become pregnant from the romp, you had only very limited time to call a doctor and have them prescribe for you the most common morning after pill – called Plan B, or marketed under the drug name Levonorgestrel.  From there, if you were more than three days out of the gate with your unprotected or questionably protected sex, you could just forget about it, because it’s effectiveness was only prescribed for three days after the event.

In other words, if it was three days or more after the sexual incident from which you were trying to prevent a full on fertilization of the egg by sperm, then you were SOL and would have to pursue a normal pregnancy termination, which I believe can only be done at 3 months, so a woman would have to be pregnant for three months knowing she was going to terminate the pregnancy, which is an awful psychological thing to go through for most women. And yes, I am Pro Choice, if you can’t tell already, and I’m a woman who has gone through these dilemmas myself and thought about what I would do if that happened to me, so I feel that I am close to the subject matter.

When it comes to female sexuality, a lot of people (and yes, a lot of them are men which I think is particularly unfair since they don’t know what pregnancy is like), seem to think that women don’ t have a choice, and that once they are pregnant, that’s it, they’ve made their choice, and no matter what their life situation or goals or aspirations are, they should just deal with it and have the child and give it up for adoption or take care of it themselves.

That is why the “abortion pill” as it’s been dubbed is such a life saver for a lot of women.  It takes a lot of the ethical considerations, and although it doesn’t get rid of them because it’s been debated at what moment life actually begins, it at least makes it a lot easier on the woman.  A new pill actually allows a woman to take the morning after pill up to 5 days after unprotected sexual intercourse, which is a whole two days more than the current existing 3 day morning after pill, which gives a lot more leeway for a couple or a single woman to have control over their bodies and their life situations.

Women Can Now Dye Their Vajayjays

My Pink Button - New Vagina Confidence?

Hey guys, Jill L here, guest writer from a lady’s perspective, which no offense guys, you all need once in a while!  Anyways, I had to write about this interesting article I read a few days ago because I think it’s bordering on comical, and yet is marketing genius at the same time to an increasingly sexually aware and sexualized society we live in. We live and breathe for sex – and food, but you know what I men, sex is great, and that’s why sexual enhancement products for women and men is such a huge field and hotly talked about item. I’ll be the first to admit I have quite a few experience with fun sex toys and experimentation under my belt!

I never really thought about this aspect of the female sexual anatomy, but as we women get older, our nether regions, which are normally pink and plump looking when we are young, actually turn a brownish color as we age. Yuck, I know, not something I’m going to be happy to discover when I happen to be mucking around down there when I get older, I’m sure.  This is probably due to hormonal changes and just aging in general.

Not really sure what the exact physiological cause of it is, but the bottom line is it is something that women of a certain age may find not so attractive or alluring about themselves as they get older, and may want to change or help it change color back to it’s more youthful stance.

That’s where a new, quirky product called My Pink Button comes in. This product is actually a body safe dye that women can use that will tint their privates back to a pink color. It is is a consumption safe food dye that actually helps turn the area back into it’s youthful pink, supple look.  And they said there were no cosmetics for the vajayjay – just look at this now!  I do wonder though, how often they think someone’s going to be right down there in their business to actually see the color of their labia and other external parts like their clitoris.

Shoot, there must be some ladies that get lucky quite often in that department to make such a great market for something like this for a fairly obscure and hidden part of the female anatomy.  But, there is a market for just about everything, and this surely is a niche that will have ladies wanting more if it really works and makes them feel better about themselves. Hmm, should our next topic be about giving women oral sex?  I think a lot of women may feel their partners neglect this area for them and a lot of women really like this, so let’s talk about that topic next time!

Men and Women Experience Sexual Arousal Differently

While it seems that women may be more in touch with their bodies when it comes to health issues and other things that have to do with our bodies telling, or screaming something at us, where we may need to give it some attention or maybe go see a doctor, and men tend to either blatantly ignore or turn off  their subconscious cues to things like that, men may have the better senses when it comes to sexual arousal – what a shock!  That’s right, men’s mind and body are better melded when it comes to the link between the physiological responses that indicate sexual arousal and the mindfulness, or psychological awareness, that they are sexually aroused.

Interestingly, when men are sexually aroused in a physically tangible way, they know it almost instantaneously, whereas if a woman’s genitals are showing signs of sexual excitement, then she is more likely to report that she does not feel any sexual arousal whatsoever at that moment.  Of course, men do sport a lot more physical evidence that is obvious in this manner, since penile erections are so much more obvious and physically evident than a woman’s genitalia showing the less obvious and more discreet and hidden signs of sexual excitement in her more hidden genitals.

So I thought, this study seems kind of pointless because a man’s erection is so much more visibly obvious than a woman’s arousal, but then I read on and discovered that men know even at the beginning of an erection that they are feeling sexual excitement, so they still have a better mind body connection when it comes to this. Also, when shown pictures of women that are sexual in nature, men reported sexual feelings right away, whereas women were not aware they were sexually aroused but by their phsysical response, they were.

This might indicate findings that are useful in the study of how to get rid of ED, or erectile dyfunction since it shows that men definitely have a lot more of a mental connection to their sexual arousal than previously thought, but it also may help with new female sexual enhancement products as well since it helps scientists understand how a woman’s mind works when it comes to her sexual thoughts and her physiological responses that comes after these thoughts of stimuli.  Interesting stuff, definitely, and it goes to show that men do put sex as a lot bigger role in their lives and their conscious thoughts than women do, which I think is something that we’ve always suspected.

Ladies : Provestra Review

Ok, Jill here. I’m reviewing a popular female sexual enhancement product today called Provestra, which we talk about on this website here at female sexual enhancement products a little bit more. This is a daily supplement that women can take that helps to substantially increase their sexual desire.  I’m a woman, and I know that we can be rough on ourselves. We tend to put a lot of things before sex in our lives. If you happen to have kids too, then you really put everyone before your own needs, and you tend to go without sex, and leave yourself and your partner out in the cold when it comes to having a mutually satisfying sexual existence.

Not only is this not fair to you, but it’s really not fair to your partner either. When you deny your partner sex over and over because you’re too tired or you’re just having a hard time getting in the mood, then you are really not only hurting him but you are hurting yourself as well, and you are putting the health of the relationship in jeopardy.

Provestra can definitely help to put you in the mood for sex, not just once, but when you take it daily, you will start to notice that you naturally crave sexual contact more and more.  It’s unique blend helps to promote those feelings of sexual longing by helping to increase the blood flow to all the places where it matters most, and it also helps to promote energy without anxiety, which for women is an aphrodisiac in itself, trust me.

If you’re looking for a great gift to give your girlfriend or wife, then try this one out, it will help to re-ignite the flames in the bedroom, and it will help her to feel more like having sex, more often, and for longer periods of time.

Anal Sex Women-Continued

This is a continuation of our last story, I’m continuing to tell you how to get your woman into anal sex, and here are the instructions on how to actually do that and make it comfortable and pleasurable for both of you.  By the way, this is Jill again, your guest female writer here at MEM!

Buy yourself a good, tight pair of latex gloves, or nonlatex in case your partner has an allergy to latex, as many people tend to have these days.  If you’re not squeamish, you can do it bare handed, but I recommend the gloves because it can also be more comfortable for the woman since latex and plastic slips in much more easily.  Next, you are going to need a very good lubricant.  There is, of course, good ol’ anal ease lubricant.  I have never tried that personally, but I’ve heard it does the trick pretty well.

We use a combination of gel baby oil and astroglide, which works just fine.  The man needs to put these lubricants on his fingertips generously, and also slather the woman’s anal area with the lubricant.  This will greatly increase the comfort level.  Next, begin with gently and SLOWLY inserting the forefinger into the anus.  Once a comfort levels has been reached with that, you can adjust the pressure and the length of finger you insert, and gradually work your way to the thumb and then two fingers.

Once this comfort level has been reached, you can then attempt penile penetration, but make sure there is plenty of lubricant on the penis itself, because this is significantly larger than your two fingers, and if she is not adequately prepped, then this could be uncomfortable or even painful.  Gently put the tip of the penis in, gently moving back and forth with just the tip of the penis.  Let her know to be vocal about the comfort level she is experiencing, and to direct you how slow or fast, or deep she wants you to go. This way, if you maintain an open dialogue, your foray into anal sex will be successful.

Women do learn to enjoy this.  I myself have learned not to be afraid, and to enjoy and just let go. What has worked for me is to take deep breaths.  Anal sex will not work if the woman is uptight and cannot relax and breathe correctly, because breathing deeply and relaxing significantly relaxes the anal muscles that contract.  Once you learn how to do this, you may even be able to experience an orgasm or a near-orgasm because it is truly a different, and intense sensation that borders on driving you crazy at times!

How to Get a Woman Into Anal Sex

Jill here again, the female guest writer, to offer a woman’s perspective on a subject that a lot of men wonder about.   Lots of men want to know how to get their women to like anal sex, or sometimes, to even get them to try it out to see if they like it.  I must be honest, as a woman, anal sex seemed about as appealing to me as going to the dentist for a root canal.  That is, until my fiance taught me how to do it the right way.

And now I can honestly say that I really like it.  It’s a great addition to a relationship where you’ve literally done it all, and need something extra spicy and kinky to really change things up and keep it passionate and somewhat “dirty”.  By the way, “dirty” stuff not only turns men on, but it also turns women on too, as long as you guys approach  it the right way.

Anal sex is intimidating to women because we automatically, and many times, correctly, assume that it’s going to be painful and uncomfortable.   In short, we think it’s going to be something that we can’t wait to be overwith before it’s even started. The anticipation is worse than the actual act half the time.  But once you learn that there are ways in which you need to go about prepping your girlfriend or wife for the act, you may soon be enjoying it with her at her request. Yes, guys, she may actually INITIATE it once she learns how good it can feel to women when they are prepared the right way.

Did you know that there are tons of nerves in the anus? This is why anal sex can be both pleasurable and painful.  It is definitely more pleasurable when the anus is prepared correctly though. Here’s what you need to do to prepare your partner before you try to do penile penetration of the rear end.