This may seem like a pretty silly question, but believe me, it is so true when it comes to having sex and having the desire to have sex.  Think about the times when you come home from work, exhausted, and your partner starts in on you for some affection and sex.  Admit it, sometimes it’s the last thing, even you as a man, want to do, and that in itself can be a frustrating fact for men.  Especially men who are normally rearing to go in the sack, and have a very high sex drive normally. 

This is the reason that many men do turn to male sexual enhancement products and even couples turn to the help of a professional sex therapist, because they don’t really know that one of the most basic of life’s functions - sleep and sleep deprivation - is interfering with their passion and their sex life. 

Of course, I don’t want to oversimplify the problem, as there are often many other reasons that affect a person’s sex life adversely, whether a male or female sexual dysfunction, but lack of sleep, which seems to be an ever increasing phenomenon these days is definitely up there with the least hard to diagnose and easiest to remedy of sexual problems. 

Lack of sleep not only makes our desire go down, it inhibits our power to perform, and often creates a vicious cycle of performance anxiety because of performance problems when tired.  If you feel that lack of sleep is really putting a damper on your sex life, you may want to see a doctor to try out something called a sleep lab.  In these, they can tell what your quality of sleep is (which is another factor that can inhibit desire), and any issues you may have with not getting sound enough sleep. 

You can also try supplements like Deer Antler Plus and VigRX (for reviews see VigRX review and Deer Antler Plus review) which do contain ingredients that can boost overall energy and stamina performance when taken regularly, and also getting the proper nutrition and exercising great increase the odds that you will get excellent quality sleep. 

Quality sleep is more important in everyone’s life than they realize.  There is a reason that people who are deprived do not perform well with motor skills, clarity of thinking and clouded judgment, because it is something in life that you will definitely die without, or suffer permanent brain damage without.  I dare say sleep is more important than food! 

We’ve all been here.  At least I’m pretty sure, and if you haven’t, count yourself as one of the very few blessed couples who does not experience this.  I’m talking about lulls in sex and libido.  You know exactly what I mean.  After those first roughly two formative years of a relationship, where you can’t seem to get enough of eachother, it is said that the chemical dopamine, which is known as the “love” hormone in the body because it is responsible for trigerring higher levels of testosterone in both men and women, goes down fairly dramatically. 

In other words, the two year mark is when many couples note that they feel that wild passion has gone out of their relationship, and from that point on, if the two people genuinely care about and deeply love eachother, it takes a little work and imaginative creativeness in the bedroom to keep those love chemicals flowing, and keep the sex interesting. 

Different things act as natural libido help for men and women, and when I say different things, I mean something that is not the “routine” or run of the mill.  It doesn’t just mean novel activities in the bedroom, or different sexual positions, places to have sex, or sex toys, but it also means doing new activities together.  Never been surfing together?  Do it.  Never gone skiing together before?  Try it.  Novel activities and new experiences keep relationships new and exciting. 

Many times vacations together can be better than supplements for multiple and more intense orgasms like Deer Antler Plus, because they are a natural high, and they make the experience more intense through the sensory side of things. 

How often have you noticed that when the two of you are on vacation together, doing new things, experiencing new places, sounds, scenery and activities, that you feel that initial attraction you felt when you first started dating come back.  It’s not just the fact that you don’t feel the stressors of daily life on vacation, although that does play a part, it’s also that your senses are being stimulated in different ways, and this heightens awareness, and makes the partners appreciate things together again, it makes it “new” again. 

Also, don’t hesitate to be the initiator.  Many times, couples expect the other one to be the instigator of sexual trysts, instead of being proactive and telling their partner they would like to be intimate with them, right there and right now.  The sponteneity angle works wonders every time. 

We get into such a rut with our routines that we forget to be the ones to “make the first move” on eachother, and this in turn just kind of acts as a domino effect where the other partner is constantly expecting the other one to be the proactive one.  For women who think they need a libido boost, there are now great female sexual enhancement products for women to try as well that can help get their chemicals going in their body to increase sexual desire as well.   It takes two! 

I read an article recently that concluded something very scientific and profound, that your sexual desire (libido) is destroyed by stress.  Wow, what  breakthrough, don’t ya think!?  Yeah, it seems obvious to me too, but apparently now, in addition to the abundant anecdotal data we have that stress hinders our desire to copulate and be intimate, there is actual scientific backing to this reasoning. 

Actually the evidence is showing that not only can stress negatively impact one’s sexual relationships and desire for sexual intimacy, but it can be downright devastating to one’s libido.  More susceptible to not wanting sex due to life’s stressors and medical issues (which, we all know can lead to stress in themselves, not just impact the part of the body they physically affect), are women, especially women in their fifties. 

Men are susceptible as well, and certainly do get affected by sress at work and in their personal life, or even strife within their partnership or marriage, but we all know that women are more “cognitive” sexual creatures, and their thoughts and emotions may play a great deal more into their sexual pleasure and subsequent desire to continue having sex than it does for men, who are more creatures of habit and naturally higher libidos.  Men can take the best multivitamins for men, but they still have to want the sex naturally too! 

Sounds unfair, but there is scientific merit according to research done as a study on men and women who reported feeling not so amorous versus men and women who did.  They also say that just not addressing these types of issues may be or seem easier to people, but in fact if it is just left alone it can cause serious rifts in partnerships and marriage. 

As a matter of fact, yes, there are a lot of other stressors in relationships such as disagreements about how to live life, raise kids, about money and so on, but lack of sex or quality of sex can actually lead to additional problems and more tension in a relationship, so it’s best to nip these types of issues in the bud with therapy or even prescribed medication if that’s what it takes. 

We all know exercising is great for us, and that we should always try to maintain a regular fitness schedule for the health of our heart, our mind and our overall body, as well as for weight loss and maintenance. But what about exercising for sexual health and our natural libido, or craving for sex which makes us feel youthful and alive? What about exercising for staying healthy, young and virile for as long as we can as men?

Well, even if there is no “medical evidence” to support what I’m about to theorize, I stand firm in saying that yes, I do believe that tequila, at least the high quality stuff, serves as a nice little aphrodisiac and natural libido helper for men and women. 

Why do I say that?  Well, personal feelings on how the popular alcoholic drink affect me personally aside, tequila is an alcohol that possesses interesting properties because of the plant it is derived from, the agave cactus. 

The higher quality tequilas, say like Melagro Gold, contain higher amounts of an extract of the agave cactus, and these extracts are known to be a stimulant.  That’s why people call tequila a stimulating alcohol, and emotions can run high if too much is consumed, because it actually stimulates the nervous system. 

This is precisely why it can also act as a temporary sexual stimulant in both ladies in men, because anything that stimulates the nervous system like this most likely also in turn can stimulate blood flow, and we all know where that extra blood can go to create more sensation and a greater sexual awareness! 

So, next time you and your lady feel like getting a little freaky, crack open a bottle of the high quality stuff (don’t skimp), and have at it!

We’ve all heard the phrase “spicing up your sex life” before, in different ways and in different contexts, whether you are talking about a long term couple, or a single person just looking to start having a regular sex life.  Well, it seems that actual spices - that is, of the kitchen variety, may play a role in helping to enhance sexual arousal and also to help enhance orgasms. 

What is the key to these foods that can enhance your sex life and enhancing the male libido?  Well, there are some foods that help, rather than hinder your sexual desire.  The component we are looking for here is food or spices that enhance circulatory activity, meaning increasing circulation like many of the herbal penis enhancing supplements on the market today which create and lengthen the orgasm process. 

Foods that are high in the essential fatty acid, called Omega-3, are excellent for enhancing and maintaining the critical circulatory system and enhancing blood flow since they help to keep the conduits to circulation - the veins, capillaries and arteries, healthy and fast moving, free of blockages and ready to pump blood vigorously through the system, including the penis. 

Omega 3 fatty acids are found abundantly in salmon, other kinds of fish, avocados, almonds, macademia nuts, and other foods that may be too numerous to name here, but you get the idea. 

Not only are these fats good for you penis health and your overall circulatory system, they are very good for your heart, and are recommended for any man over 40 to take anyways.

Other substances found in foods, nuts and grains that will help naturally increase a man’s libido and intensify your orgasms is L-Argynine, which you may have heard of.  Chili peppers are known to enhance circulation as well, and other spicy hot foods can also enhance feelings of sexual desire, as long as you don’t overdo it. 

Most people believe that when the weather gets warmer, people’s sex drives gets better, and they’re crawling allover eachother suddenly.  This in fact is just the opposite for most people though. 

Although the introduction of warmer air - aka spring fever - usually tends to spark a higher libido in both men and women, hot, humid weather is a huge libido booster - usually more for men than women.  Spring fever, as it’s been coined, is a little different though. 

Spring fever occurs when the weather has just changed from cold to warm, and people tend to get out and about a lot more, which usually ignites slumbering passions and sexual feelings in people, while mid summer heat tends to zap it right out of them. 

Cold weather can be a libido booster or killer, depending on how cold it is.  Usually for the simple fact that no one wants to get naked because they’re so cold!

New studies are starting to reverse some findings that we all took for granted as true and pretty much common sense conclusions.  Researchers are saying that yes, there is indeed a statistical link (numbers game) between higher testosterone levels and higher libido, but in fact men with lower testosterone levels may not always suffer low libido, and likewise, men with high testosterone are not just 24/7 horndogs. 

In studies of over 1,600 men, over the course of two years, the team of scientists behind this latest “discover” (although I’d call it more of a hypothesis at this point), came to the conclusion that the overall libido of these men was significantly associated with their testosterone levels. 

But, the difference in testosterone levels between participants with low libido and those with high libido was small and therefore “inconsequential”, and not always the cause of low libido, as was once commonly thought. 

What does this all mean?  Well, if you ask me, this doesn’t really make it any easier to determine what’s causing a low sex drive.  It could, or could not be a reduction or deficiency in the testosterone hormone, so it would be advisable for men who are not sure, or are not experiencing other symptoms of low testosterone, to go get tested and see if they can be helped in a different way. 

Testosterone is the primary “I am man, hear me roar” hormone among the androgen (male hormone) family of hormones and by far the best known in this entire sector (who hasn’t heard of testosterone?  It’s practically a verb in it’s own right).

Androgens are responsible for the development of masculine characteristics in all vertebrates (aka humans, anything with a spine basically) by a process where it binds to the androgen receptors.  This all sounds foreign, I know, but trust me there is a point.

Androgens are the overseers of the activity of all male sex organs (including the penis and testosterone production) and the development of secondary sexual characteristics, like a man’s deep voice, male body and facial hair, broader shoulders and chest, a heavier bone structure than women, larger and more dense muscle mass and more coarse skin.

Testosterone, the kind of all androgens, is mostly secreted in the testes and then secondarily by the adrenal glands, which is something I did not previously know.

The functions of this powerful hormone are so very closely linked to the mental and sexual well-being of men, that a dip in the level of testosterone produced by the body is enough to bring about dramatic changes in any man.  This is where a testosterone enhancing supplement can work wonders for you. 

What this type of supplement does is naturally boost your testosterone, and even your semen production, for improved sexual desire and a higher output of testosterone, naturally.  More on testosterone level issues next time…

There are several herbs that, when taken together, have been demonstrated to have a fairly singnificant effect on male and female sex drive. Let’s examine what they are: