Libido

Aprhodisiac with Toad Venom Causes Death

A banned aphrodisiac that is sold quietly in head shops and sex shops, has caused a death in a 35 year old man, and it may be that the hunt for this natural aphrodisiac is on again by the FDA since it is obviously still being used or may still be available in certain spots for men to use.  However, one issue that is making it harder for enforcers to identify to take it off the shelves is that fact that the product is sold under several different names, including Piedra, Love Stone, Black Stone and Chinese Rock and Jamaican Stone.

The “natural” male enhancement product, which is sold in a solid form and purports to act as a natural aphrodisiac by being rubbed on the skin, is a  solidified mass which contains toad venom, the culprit in the health problems most likely.  It was outlawed when the FDA discovered it was linked with other males deaths and severe health complications. 

The most recent man who died from the toad venom aprhodisiac, it is said, had ingested the product, rather than rubbed it on his skin as indicated, however officials are careful to note that this product was banned for a reason, and it is not safe to use in any way, shape or form, whether taken by mouth or rubbed on the skin. 

A chemical byproduct of the toad venom derived aphrodisiac apparently interrupts the heart rhythm.  The 35 year old man who died was complaining of abdominal pain as well as chest pain when admitted to a hospital, however nothing could be done to save him, and it sounds as though he died of heart complications. 

Although the warning against this dangerous male enhancement product was issued for New York City, where the latest problem occurred, the FDA wants all men to know that if they have a product that is in solid form that is in any way suspect of being this one, do not take it.  It could literally mean the difference between life and death. 

Sex, Libido and Busy Couples

There was an interesting column which I frequently read where people, men and women, will write in about their sexual problems with their partners, or if they are partner-less, they write in about their problems that have to do with sex in general.  Not only does this open up a whole new world of what sexual issues and frustrations other people deal with for me, but it also makes me realize that lots of “normal” couples and people experience the same things that I have experienced at one time or another so it’s a nice normalizing feeling to discover that you’re not the only one who may need natural libido help, or not be able to orgasm every time you have sexual relations. 

Speaking as a woman (guest writer here), I can say that I can identify with the woman in this one, who says that she feels like she is too busy and stressed out from her day’s work to have sexual intercourse with her husband, and that when he feels sexually aroused when he gets home from work and expects her to just give him sex to satisfy his penis.  Here’s where men and women can differ sometimes in their views on sex, and on their basic physiological differences when it comes to sexual needs and intimacy needs.

Women often put sex on the back burner, especially after they’ve had children, and in this case the couple had a 2 year old child together.  Not only that, there is scientifically documented evidence that woman’s libido goes down after having children, it’s just nature (I know, nature can be very cruel, right?)  It’s kind of like one of those last posts where we talked about nature making you extremely amorous when you’re ovulating, and making you more appealing to men when you are most likely to conceive, once you’ve conceived it’s like nature’s “done with you” in a way – they’ve already gotten a child outta ya! 

I thought this particular situation with a woman thinking her husband was being unfair was two fold.  First of all, women have to realize, men are biologically driven to seek out sex, they need to ejaculate on a regular basis, this has been shown to be true to help with stress and testosterone levels which lead to agression in men, and I’m not saying women don’t need it to, it’s just that we’re wired a little differently where we can go longer without it.  It may be our way of protecting ourselves from being pregnant 24/7, before the days of this awesome thing we call birth control today.

Women should be able to understand that, and if they feel like they are totally undersexed, then discuss the fact with their husbands, maybe take one of these fun new female sexual enhancement products, and maybe also take steps so that work isn’t eating up their lives and stressing them out so much – an automatic libido buster.  Also, there may be other things in the relationship that are creating the symptom of her low libido.  Perhaps resentment of some sort, a loss of attraction to her partner?  These issues should all be addressed too, as I believe many times when one partner loses interest in sex, it’s a symptom of bigger problems than just “being busy”.  That’s just my take. 

Guys should also be more patient, when a women says she’s not in the mood, don’t press the issue, but instead maybe try to get to the heart of the issue and be able to discuss openly their sexual needs and why they feel like they are being “shut out” in a sense.  Relationships go both ways, and men and women are definitely like Mars and Venus as the famous book claims, but if we can keep an open dialogue and our love for eachother keeps an open mind and an accomodating air about it, anything’s possible. 

Absence Makes the Libido Stronger

It occurred to me recently after my partner had been away for a while, that absence definitely makes the heart grow fonder, or at least makes the libido stronger.  She was visiting relatives and the whole time she was away, sex was all I could think about.  I guess it’s that old saying that you don’t know what you got til it’s gone, or that you want what you can’t have, right?

It is true that when our partners are away for a while, we tend to get a little more randy when they’re gone, and certainly more so than when they are actually around the majority of the time, unless there is a large libido enhancer or natural sexual enhancement product at work, such as some specific seafood or a certain scent lit up, or maybe another type of food that is supposed to increase the sexual appetite. 

Experts in relationships say that being apart is actually healthy for a relationship, as long as it’s in healthy doses.  Say if you are away all of the time, it may foster feelings of resentment or distrust, but if you are attached at the hip all the time, naturally you will get tired of eachother, and guess what, your sex life would usually suffer too – go figure! 

I know for she and I, we both feel the same way when it comes to this theory on relationships, that too much togetherness can really be a bad thing, and that one must be allowed to have their own time to do their own thing so that not all sense of personal identity is lost, which fosters those negative feelings of being trapped.  Relationships aren’t easy, that’s for sure, but as long as we can do things in moderation, that’s when things go as smoothly as possible. 

Scentuelle Patch for Women to Feel More Sexy

I was just reading today about a new patch that women are supposed to affix to the inside of their wrist, which purports to make women feel more sexy and make them think about sex more often because it emits a scent that is supposed to olfactorily (is that even a word, I mean smell) stimulate one’s mind into thinking about sex and intimacy.  It’s around the size of a quarter by the looks of the picture of the patch it showed in the article, and it is said to combine a sort of lemon-y and floral type of scent, at least according to one user.

A sixty day supply of the Scentuelle patch is about thirty bucks, which doesn’t seem too bad, but I guess that really depends on whether the patch workd well as a female sexual enhancement and libido booster.  The woman who wrote about it and tried the product for a while said that she also got accompanying emails from the company reminding her to think about sex every day, and touch herself suggestively, such as running her fingers along her arm or other errogenous zone to help her feel more sexy, and to do other things that would increase her erotic feelings, such  as looking up online what other womens’ fantasies might be.

She did say that since she had the Scentuelle patch on, she felt more sexy and thought about sex more often, but wondered if it was just because of the emails and not the patch, which she actually said sort of gave her a headache at first.  It’s difficult to say sometimes whether sexual enhancement products for men and women work well alone, or if it’s also the idea behind them that stimulates the user to think of sex more often, as a psychosomatic symptom almost. 

Women are said to like scents such as certain floral scents as well as sweet smells that you may find in a kitchen, and men are actually attracted to the same types of things, with women being most turned off by scents such as barbeque and even heavy men’s cologne.  I could see this, except I do think it probably depends on what type fo cologne it is, because there are some that some female friends tells me makes them into a raging sex maniac. 

Testosterone Not Just Linked to Libido Anymore

Testosterone levels in men have always been linked in one way or another to their sexual drive, appetite, or libido.  Men with low libido, or sex drive, often seek help because this is usually considered to be a sign that a man is not producing enough testosterone.  But libido is not the only thing that may be affected negatively by lower than normal testosterone levels, your overall health and especially heart health may be affected if your testosterone levels are low. 

Those men that naturally have higher levels of the male hormone testosterone circulating in their bodies often have a better chance at surviving heart attacks that otherwise may have proven fatal to other men, and also improves their risk factors for strokes, which is something that happens in both men and women when blood flow to the brain is interrupted and brain damage or even death often occurs.

The researchers who had headed up this ten year research on the links between testosterone levels and male health are quick to say that this does not mean men should immediately seek to supplement their diet with testosterone enhancers, which are administered medically, because they do not fully understand the link between higher testosterone levels as it relates to health, and even if it is overall beneficial or if it’s a wash when it comes to risk levels for certain diseases and disorders.

Not only that, but they fear that testosterone therapy may lead to it’s own separate set of problems.  By looking at this sort of research, it seems that the perfect level of testosterone for men may be actually a normal, or middle level, this way they are smack dab in the middle of the risk pool for certain types of diseases and disorders. 

They also do point out that it appears they have made a definite connection between higher levels of testosterone and mortality rates for cancer and strokes improvement in men.  However, higher levels of testosterone have also been blamed for fueling the growth of cancer cells in men with prostate and other types of hormonally related cancers, so this is kind of a catch 22 type of situation. 

Is Tax Time Lowering Your Libido?

Well, if you’re like the worry wart I am, tax time certainly is having an impact on your libido, or your sexual desire, and you are in dire need of either some anxiety and depression relief, or some serious natural libido help for men in the form of slow breathing and aphrodisiacs to help you get in the mood and get negative energy out of your mind. 

Channeling your energy sexually many times can be a huge stress buster, and in fact, it has been shown that stress levels decrease the more often a man or a woman has sex, further proof that having sex more often benefits us in more ways than just carnal, temporary pleasure.  Since this time of year brings lots of stress and those “what if’s” start creeping into your head, as well as all the preparation for actually having your taxes done, many men and women find that their libido suffers simply because they think they have much better things to do with their time than fuss with something they can live without – sex.

In fact, what they are doing to themselves, and I’m not excluding myself from this scenario by the way, is actually increasing their levels of anxiety, which furthers the whole cycle of anxiety and depression, and not wanting to have sex. We can all tell when our libidos are suffering, and most of us are even mature enough to be able to pinpoint our lack of desire to have sex and sexual intimacy to a certain reason, or at least a certain cluster of reasons.

For tax time, maybe you could have your partner help you out a little by having them sort certain things such as receipts or bills into certain piles, instead of trying to get it all together by yourself.  Also, take note that no matter what, you can only gather all the information you have, and beyond that, it is out of your control. 

Make sure you have a competent and intelligent accountant who is up on all the latest tax laws and loopholes that can help you get the most out of your taxes as possible, and this can also help you rest assured that you are not going to paying through the nose or overpaying more than you should for that fiscal year.  This will help you sleep better at night, and yes, it will also considerably help along your libido!   

Women & the Pill and Lack of Libido

Guys, I’ve got news for you.  Women usually don’t like being on the birth control pill, but they have to be if they really want to safeguard against getting pregnant.  There are other methods of course to birth control that can work well, but the most effective way to safeguard against pregnancy is still the pill and various versions of hormone dosage like injections and the patch that are available, but honestly which have gotten worse press for side effects than just the good old fashioned birth control pill.

The reason I’m writing this is because lots of guys don’t realize that being on the pill, especially some of the higher dose pills, can really wreak havoc on a woman’s sex drive, and this exhibits itself unfortunately in taking its toll on a man and woman’s relationship, when a guy thinks it’s because of him that the woman doesn’t want to have sex. 

Female sexual enhancement products of course may help the situation, but being on the pill may also trump even the best in products for a woman’s sexual enhancement simply because the dosing of hormones is simply too powerful to be overcome. 

The solution may be to move to a lower dose pill or for the woman to discuss options with her doctor and get their opinion on some other options for birth control after she explains that the current one is really making her a loss for a real desire to have sex with her partner.  Besides that, being on the pill can also have additional effects that lead to lack of sex drive, like weight gain. 

Sure, they say the pill doesn’t make you gain weight, but i doubt they asked any of the women on the pill before they said that, because many women claim that the pill has made them gain a few pounds in water weight. 

Awake Enough for Sex?

This may seem like a pretty silly question, but believe me, it is so true when it comes to having sex and having the desire to have sex.  Think about the times when you come home from work, exhausted, and your partner starts in on you for some affection and sex.  Admit it, sometimes it’s the last thing, even you as a man, want to do, and that in itself can be a frustrating fact for men.  Especially men who are normally rearing to go in the sack, and have a very high sex drive normally. 

This is the reason that many men do turn to male sexual enhancement products and even couples turn to the help of a professional sex therapist, because they don’t really know that one of the most basic of life’s functions – sleep and sleep deprivation – is interfering with their passion and their sex life. 

Of course, I don’t want to oversimplify the problem, as there are often many other reasons that affect a person’s sex life adversely, whether a male or female sexual dysfunction, but lack of sleep, which seems to be an ever increasing phenomenon these days is definitely up there with the least hard to diagnose and easiest to remedy of sexual problems. 

Lack of sleep not only makes our desire go down, it inhibits our power to perform, and often creates a vicious cycle of performance anxiety because of performance problems when tired.  If you feel that lack of sleep is really putting a damper on your sex life, you may want to see a doctor to try out something called a sleep lab.  In these, they can tell what your quality of sleep is (which is another factor that can inhibit desire), and any issues you may have with not getting sound enough sleep. 

You can also try supplements like Deer Antler Plus and VigRX (for reviews see VigRX review and Deer Antler Plus review) which do contain ingredients that can boost overall energy and stamina performance when taken regularly, and also getting the proper nutrition and exercising great increase the odds that you will get excellent quality sleep. 

Quality sleep is more important in everyone’s life than they realize.  There is a reason that people who are deprived do not perform well with motor skills, clarity of thinking and clouded judgment, because it is something in life that you will definitely die without, or suffer permanent brain damage without.  I dare say sleep is more important than food! 

Libido Boosters for Long Term Couples

We’ve all been here.  At least I’m pretty sure, and if you haven’t, count yourself as one of the very few blessed couples who does not experience this.  I’m talking about lulls in sex and libido.  You know exactly what I mean.  After those first roughly two formative years of a relationship, where you can’t seem to get enough of eachother, it is said that the chemical dopamine, which is known as the “love” hormone in the body because it is responsible for trigerring higher levels of testosterone in both men and women, goes down fairly dramatically. 

In other words, the two year mark is when many couples note that they feel that wild passion has gone out of their relationship, and from that point on, if the two people genuinely care about and deeply love eachother, it takes a little work and imaginative creativeness in the bedroom to keep those love chemicals flowing, and keep the sex interesting. 

Different things act as natural libido help for men and women, and when I say different things, I mean something that is not the “routine” or run of the mill.  It doesn’t just mean novel activities in the bedroom, or different sexual positions, places to have sex, or sex toys, but it also means doing new activities together.  Never been surfing together?  Do it.  Never gone skiing together before?  Try it.  Novel activities and new experiences keep relationships new and exciting. 

Many times vacations together can be better than supplements for multiple and more intense orgasms like Deer Antler Plus, because they are a natural high, and they make the experience more intense through the sensory side of things. 

How often have you noticed that when the two of you are on vacation together, doing new things, experiencing new places, sounds, scenery and activities, that you feel that initial attraction you felt when you first started dating come back.  It’s not just the fact that you don’t feel the stressors of daily life on vacation, although that does play a part, it’s also that your senses are being stimulated in different ways, and this heightens awareness, and makes the partners appreciate things together again, it makes it “new” again. 

Also, don’t hesitate to be the initiator.  Many times, couples expect the other one to be the instigator of sexual trysts, instead of being proactive and telling their partner they would like to be intimate with them, right there and right now.  The sponteneity angle works wonders every time. 

We get into such a rut with our routines that we forget to be the ones to “make the first move” on eachother, and this in turn just kind of acts as a domino effect where the other partner is constantly expecting the other one to be the proactive one.  For women who think they need a libido boost, there are now great female sexual enhancement products for women to try as well that can help get their chemicals going in their body to increase sexual desire as well.   It takes two! 

Stress Kills Your Sex Life – DUH!

I read an article recently that concluded something very scientific and profound, that your sexual desire (libido) is destroyed by stress.  Wow, what  breakthrough, don’t ya think!?  Yeah, it seems obvious to me too, but apparently now, in addition to the abundant anecdotal data we have that stress hinders our desire to copulate and be intimate, there is actual scientific backing to this reasoning. 

Actually the evidence is showing that not only can stress negatively impact one’s sexual relationships and desire for sexual intimacy, but it can be downright devastating to one’s libido.  More susceptible to not wanting sex due to life’s stressors and medical issues (which, we all know can lead to stress in themselves, not just impact the part of the body they physically affect), are women, especially women in their fifties. 

Men are susceptible as well, and certainly do get affected by sress at work and in their personal life, or even strife within their partnership or marriage, but we all know that women are more “cognitive” sexual creatures, and their thoughts and emotions may play a great deal more into their sexual pleasure and subsequent desire to continue having sex than it does for men, who are more creatures of habit and naturally higher libidos.  Men can take the best multivitamins for men, but they still have to want the sex naturally too! 

Sounds unfair, but there is scientific merit according to research done as a study on men and women who reported feeling not so amorous versus men and women who did.  They also say that just not addressing these types of issues may be or seem easier to people, but in fact if it is just left alone it can cause serious rifts in partnerships and marriage. 

As a matter of fact, yes, there are a lot of other stressors in relationships such as disagreements about how to live life, raise kids, about money and so on, but lack of sex or quality of sex can actually lead to additional problems and more tension in a relationship, so it’s best to nip these types of issues in the bud with therapy or even prescribed medication if that’s what it takes.