As I watch lots of old couples get on famously, and er, not so famously, as in those ones that seem to constantly pick eachother apart and insult eachother in front of others or try to bring the other guy  down, I always wonder to myself, gosh if they act this way to eachother day in and day out, how do they ever want to have sex with eachother? 

So, I tried a little experiment, I’ve been with my girlfriend now for several years, we are not married, but sometimes we can bicker as though we are, and you can tell we are a “seasoned” couple by the way we interact with eachother.  We treat eachother very well, but there always comes a time in any relationship where the honeymoon is over and people start acting like, well, themselves. 

They start farting in front of eachother, letting eachother know what they really think of that awful morning breath, and heck, sometimes the gloves even come off and the insults start to fly, hopefully only to made up for later with a great session of sex of making out, if there is such a thing after you’ve been with someone that long.  My little experiment involved making a point of it to complement my partner every day, with one sincere, heartfelt compliment, and not withholding it like I might usually. 

Something like “I love when you do that”, or “you make me laugh”, or “you look beautiful today”.  Something that is meaningful and truthful, that you seem to just stop saying to the people you love for no good reason, when that “honeymoon” period is over.  And guess what?  The compliments made our sex life better.  I found that my partner was more willing and ready to jump in bed, felt more romantic and sexy, and also started to compliment me back, which made me feel sexy, wanted, and manly, and wanting to jump her bones. 

You see, men are not just about their penis and no feelings - they are moved by the same things women are, it’s just that women tend to hold grudges for things more than men and happen to take their grudges out in the bedroom by being unwilling for sexual intercourse, or not very enthused.  Bottom line is, you should be nice to and compliment your partner if you want a long lasting and satisfying sex life and years to come with a meaningful relationship and gratifying sex.  Then, who needs Viagra or Viagra alternatives when you have your very own natural libido enhancer for men?

Well, it may sound silly, but times of economic woes, such as the recession we’ve found ourselves smack dab in the middle of as of late, can definitely interfere with people’s sex drives.  Especially for those of us who have been directly affected by the recession and deepening economic problems that venture deeply into jobless rates, gas prices, and housing problems, bad economies, and hence horrible expenses at home, piled on with other financial pressure, has an effect on us in the bedroom.

You see, psychologically being pushed away from your libido is not just a woman’s problem.  It is also a man’s, and men who need help with libido are often looked at for more physical problems rather than mental, when the shift lately may be more to the mental side for men in trying economic times and times when money is important to keep up with the  new technology and other things technology has brought, and made life more expensive.

It’s amazing if you think about it, how much money a family needs just to stay afloat now compared to just a few decades ago, when women could more comfortably be stay at home mothers without having to worry about bringing home the bacon also (I know this sounds stereotypical of me, but believe me, it serves a purpose).

Heck, we just purchased a home together, and the strains it has put on us both emotionally and financially at times may be enough for one person to suffer a nervous breakdown.  And trust me, the last thing you feel like doing after a long and hard day’s work out in the yard or doing some other sort of strenuous housework has an effect on the male libido - it doesn’t matter what sex you are. 

Economic hard times do come and go, and this is just cyclical, although it may be deeper than the brief recessions we’ve been accustomed to since the Great Depression, but we will rebound like we always do, so try not to let it put your sex life in the dumper for too long.  Money’s just not worth worrying yourself to death over. 

Wow, you can really tell it’s spring time.  It’s just got that quality about it, where you can almost feel the sexual excitement in the air.  Even if you are in a happy relationship, you take on a whole new sensual self when the weather starts to warm, and it seems sometimes you want to tackle your partner because it’s in the air…literally you feel like love is in the air, and this is what we were all created for, and that we should be spending our time touching, feeling and exploring our partners, or for some, going out and looking for new partners if they are not attached.

Of course, then reality creeps into the picture, and the time factor sort of gets in the way of the exploring thing, or time constraints, kids, and other issues crop up that make us more inhibited sexually again, but alas, there is no denying that spring and warmer weather stirs something instinctual in all of us.  It is indeed the time when most mammals mate, so it is no coincidence that humans (yes, we’re mammals, remember?) feel a little frisky around this time of year as well.

It’s the time when, embarrassingly, you see lots of guys acting like idiots and hanging out of windows or slowing down to look at pretty women and yelling out, it’s a time of sexual freedom, and yes, even idiots explore it, just in a tacky, not so sophisticated way!  Although there are some guys out there that ruin it for the rest of us by acting it out, we can’t deny that summer does bring about the keenness more, in noticing women who are attractive. 

It may be that clothes are a little bit sexier in the spring, including for men who tend to wear less clothes in the summer, but I still go back to that basic instinct that we all have of subconsciously wanting to mate when the weather gets warmer, of feeling the need to sexually express ourselves and bask in the excitement of raw unbridled sex. 

Why do you think couples like to go tropical destinations in the winter for their vacations?  The warm weather, and yes the fact that they are on vacation enters in, but it is the warm weather that brings the “animal” out in all of us. 

A banned aphrodisiac that is sold quietly in head shops and sex shops, has caused a death in a 35 year old man, and it may be that the hunt for this natural aphrodisiac is on again by the FDA since it is obviously still being used or may still be available in certain spots for men to use.  However, one issue that is making it harder for enforcers to identify to take it off the shelves is that fact that the product is sold under several different names, including Piedra, Love Stone, Black Stone and Chinese Rock and Jamaican Stone.

The “natural” male enhancement product, which is sold in a solid form and purports to act as a natural aphrodisiac by being rubbed on the skin, is a  solidified mass which contains toad venom, the culprit in the health problems most likely.  It was outlawed when the FDA discovered it was linked with other males deaths and severe health complications. 

The most recent man who died from the toad venom aprhodisiac, it is said, had ingested the product, rather than rubbed it on his skin as indicated, however officials are careful to note that this product was banned for a reason, and it is not safe to use in any way, shape or form, whether taken by mouth or rubbed on the skin. 

A chemical byproduct of the toad venom derived aphrodisiac apparently interrupts the heart rhythm.  The 35 year old man who died was complaining of abdominal pain as well as chest pain when admitted to a hospital, however nothing could be done to save him, and it sounds as though he died of heart complications. 

Although the warning against this dangerous male enhancement product was issued for New York City, where the latest problem occurred, the FDA wants all men to know that if they have a product that is in solid form that is in any way suspect of being this one, do not take it.  It could literally mean the difference between life and death. 

There was an interesting column which I frequently read where people, men and women, will write in about their sexual problems with their partners, or if they are partner-less, they write in about their problems that have to do with sex in general.  Not only does this open up a whole new world of what sexual issues and frustrations other people deal with for me, but it also makes me realize that lots of “normal” couples and people experience the same things that I have experienced at one time or another so it’s a nice normalizing feeling to discover that you’re not the only one who may need natural libido help, or not be able to orgasm every time you have sexual relations. 

Speaking as a woman (guest writer here), I can say that I can identify with the woman in this one, who says that she feels like she is too busy and stressed out from her day’s work to have sexual intercourse with her husband, and that when he feels sexually aroused when he gets home from work and expects her to just give him sex to satisfy his penis.  Here’s where men and women can differ sometimes in their views on sex, and on their basic physiological differences when it comes to sexual needs and intimacy needs.

Women often put sex on the back burner, especially after they’ve had children, and in this case the couple had a 2 year old child together.  Not only that, there is scientifically documented evidence that woman’s libido goes down after having children, it’s just nature (I know, nature can be very cruel, right?)  It’s kind of like one of those last posts where we talked about nature making you extremely amorous when you’re ovulating, and making you more appealing to men when you are most likely to conceive, once you’ve conceived it’s like nature’s “done with you” in a way - they’ve already gotten a child outta ya! 

I thought this particular situation with a woman thinking her husband was being unfair was two fold.  First of all, women have to realize, men are biologically driven to seek out sex, they need to ejaculate on a regular basis, this has been shown to be true to help with stress and testosterone levels which lead to agression in men, and I’m not saying women don’t need it to, it’s just that we’re wired a little differently where we can go longer without it.  It may be our way of protecting ourselves from being pregnant 24/7, before the days of this awesome thing we call birth control today.

Women should be able to understand that, and if they feel like they are totally undersexed, then discuss the fact with their husbands, maybe take one of these fun new female sexual enhancement products, and maybe also take steps so that work isn’t eating up their lives and stressing them out so much - an automatic libido buster.  Also, there may be other things in the relationship that are creating the symptom of her low libido.  Perhaps resentment of some sort, a loss of attraction to her partner?  These issues should all be addressed too, as I believe many times when one partner loses interest in sex, it’s a symptom of bigger problems than just “being busy”.  That’s just my take. 

Guys should also be more patient, when a women says she’s not in the mood, don’t press the issue, but instead maybe try to get to the heart of the issue and be able to discuss openly their sexual needs and why they feel like they are being “shut out” in a sense.  Relationships go both ways, and men and women are definitely like Mars and Venus as the famous book claims, but if we can keep an open dialogue and our love for eachother keeps an open mind and an accomodating air about it, anything’s possible. 

It occurred to me recently after my partner had been away for a while, that absence definitely makes the heart grow fonder, or at least makes the libido stronger.  She was visiting relatives and the whole time she was away, sex was all I could think about.  I guess it’s that old saying that you don’t know what you got til it’s gone, or that you want what you can’t have, right?

It is true that when our partners are away for a while, we tend to get a little more randy when they’re gone, and certainly more so than when they are actually around the majority of the time, unless there is a large libido enhancer or natural sexual enhancement product at work, such as some specific seafood or a certain scent lit up, or maybe another type of food that is supposed to increase the sexual appetite. 

Experts in relationships say that being apart is actually healthy for a relationship, as long as it’s in healthy doses.  Say if you are away all of the time, it may foster feelings of resentment or distrust, but if you are attached at the hip all the time, naturally you will get tired of eachother, and guess what, your sex life would usually suffer too - go figure! 

I know for she and I, we both feel the same way when it comes to this theory on relationships, that too much togetherness can really be a bad thing, and that one must be allowed to have their own time to do their own thing so that not all sense of personal identity is lost, which fosters those negative feelings of being trapped.  Relationships aren’t easy, that’s for sure, but as long as we can do things in moderation, that’s when things go as smoothly as possible. 

I was just reading today about a new patch that women are supposed to affix to the inside of their wrist, which purports to make women feel more sexy and make them think about sex more often because it emits a scent that is supposed to olfactorily (is that even a word, I mean smell) stimulate one’s mind into thinking about sex and intimacy.  It’s around the size of a quarter by the looks of the picture of the patch it showed in the article, and it is said to combine a sort of lemon-y and floral type of scent, at least according to one user.

A sixty day supply of the Scentuelle patch is about thirty bucks, which doesn’t seem too bad, but I guess that really depends on whether the patch workd well as a female sexual enhancement and libido booster.  The woman who wrote about it and tried the product for a while said that she also got accompanying emails from the company reminding her to think about sex every day, and touch herself suggestively, such as running her fingers along her arm or other errogenous zone to help her feel more sexy, and to do other things that would increase her erotic feelings, such  as looking up online what other womens’ fantasies might be.

She did say that since she had the Scentuelle patch on, she felt more sexy and thought about sex more often, but wondered if it was just because of the emails and not the patch, which she actually said sort of gave her a headache at first.  It’s difficult to say sometimes whether sexual enhancement products for men and women work well alone, or if it’s also the idea behind them that stimulates the user to think of sex more often, as a psychosomatic symptom almost. 

Women are said to like scents such as certain floral scents as well as sweet smells that you may find in a kitchen, and men are actually attracted to the same types of things, with women being most turned off by scents such as barbeque and even heavy men’s cologne.  I could see this, except I do think it probably depends on what type fo cologne it is, because there are some that some female friends tells me makes them into a raging sex maniac. 

Testosterone levels in men have always been linked in one way or another to their sexual drive, appetite, or libido.  Men with low libido, or sex drive, often seek help because this is usually considered to be a sign that a man is not producing enough testosterone.  But libido is not the only thing that may be affected negatively by lower than normal testosterone levels, your overall health and especially heart health may be affected if your testosterone levels are low. 

Those men that naturally have higher levels of the male hormone testosterone circulating in their bodies often have a better chance at surviving heart attacks that otherwise may have proven fatal to other men, and also improves their risk factors for strokes, which is something that happens in both men and women when blood flow to the brain is interrupted and brain damage or even death often occurs.

The researchers who had headed up this ten year research on the links between testosterone levels and male health are quick to say that this does not mean men should immediately seek to supplement their diet with testosterone enhancers, which are administered medically, because they do not fully understand the link between higher testosterone levels as it relates to health, and even if it is overall beneficial or if it’s a wash when it comes to risk levels for certain diseases and disorders.

Not only that, but they fear that testosterone therapy may lead to it’s own separate set of problems.  By looking at this sort of research, it seems that the perfect level of testosterone for men may be actually a normal, or middle level, this way they are smack dab in the middle of the risk pool for certain types of diseases and disorders. 

They also do point out that it appears they have made a definite connection between higher levels of testosterone and mortality rates for cancer and strokes improvement in men.  However, higher levels of testosterone have also been blamed for fueling the growth of cancer cells in men with prostate and other types of hormonally related cancers, so this is kind of a catch 22 type of situation. 

Well, if you’re like the worry wart I am, tax time certainly is having an impact on your libido, or your sexual desire, and you are in dire need of either some anxiety and depression relief, or some serious natural libido help for men in the form of slow breathing and aphrodisiacs to help you get in the mood and get negative energy out of your mind. 

Channeling your energy sexually many times can be a huge stress buster, and in fact, it has been shown that stress levels decrease the more often a man or a woman has sex, further proof that having sex more often benefits us in more ways than just carnal, temporary pleasure.  Since this time of year brings lots of stress and those “what if’s” start creeping into your head, as well as all the preparation for actually having your taxes done, many men and women find that their libido suffers simply because they think they have much better things to do with their time than fuss with something they can live without - sex.

In fact, what they are doing to themselves, and I’m not excluding myself from this scenario by the way, is actually increasing their levels of anxiety, which furthers the whole cycle of anxiety and depression, and not wanting to have sex. We can all tell when our libidos are suffering, and most of us are even mature enough to be able to pinpoint our lack of desire to have sex and sexual intimacy to a certain reason, or at least a certain cluster of reasons.

For tax time, maybe you could have your partner help you out a little by having them sort certain things such as receipts or bills into certain piles, instead of trying to get it all together by yourself.  Also, take note that no matter what, you can only gather all the information you have, and beyond that, it is out of your control. 

Make sure you have a competent and intelligent accountant who is up on all the latest tax laws and loopholes that can help you get the most out of your taxes as possible, and this can also help you rest assured that you are not going to paying through the nose or overpaying more than you should for that fiscal year.  This will help you sleep better at night, and yes, it will also considerably help along your libido!   

Guys, I’ve got news for you.  Women usually don’t like being on the birth control pill, but they have to be if they really want to safeguard against getting pregnant.  There are other methods of course to birth control that can work well, but the most effective way to safeguard against pregnancy is still the pill and various versions of hormone dosage like injections and the patch that are available, but honestly which have gotten worse press for side effects than just the good old fashioned birth control pill.

The reason I’m writing this is because lots of guys don’t realize that being on the pill, especially some of the higher dose pills, can really wreak havoc on a woman’s sex drive, and this exhibits itself unfortunately in taking its toll on a man and woman’s relationship, when a guy thinks it’s because of him that the woman doesn’t want to have sex. 

Female sexual enhancement products of course may help the situation, but being on the pill may also trump even the best in products for a woman’s sexual enhancement simply because the dosing of hormones is simply too powerful to be overcome. 

The solution may be to move to a lower dose pill or for the woman to discuss options with her doctor and get their opinion on some other options for birth control after she explains that the current one is really making her a loss for a real desire to have sex with her partner.  Besides that, being on the pill can also have additional effects that lead to lack of sex drive, like weight gain. 

Sure, they say the pill doesn’t make you gain weight, but i doubt they asked any of the women on the pill before they said that, because many women claim that the pill has made them gain a few pounds in water weight.