Here Nor There

Dirty Love Poem

Ok, I don’t know why, but this strikes me as so funny, it just popped in my head.  I’m weird…

From girl to guy:

Your sh@% stinks and your farts smell worse

Your obsession with anal is really perverse

However, when I think of all of the rest, your penis to me, my dear, is still simply the best.

Urban Meyer : Good Example of Work Life Balance Problem

The infamous Florida Gators college football coach Urban Meyer, is the perfect example of why highly motivated men (and yes, women for that matter as well), who have high pressure, but high passion and also very rewarding jobs, often struggle to find a good balance between their work and their personal lives and health. Urban Meyer recently cited his health as the reason that he was going to step down, but then quickly rebounded and said that he may be coming back in August.

Ah, the typical afterthoughts of a self confessed workaholic.  Hopefully he can handle that, and he is still going to not be selling himself and his family short, but odds are, men who are very highly motivated and used to the pressures and excitement of such a high demand but high payoff job, are often addicted to their work and tend to forget about their health, happiness, and the happiness of their family, who often misses their presence.  While men who are highly motivated are usually great to be around, they also find that they are pulled in a million different directions, and that pressure is often hard on the heart, the blood pressure, and the overall balance and happiness, and peace in their lives.

As a bit of a workaholic myself, I can attest to the damage it can do to your personal life, but I can also attest that it feels incredibly rewarding when all your hard work finally pays off and you just get this overwhelming sense of gratitude for what life has given you, and also an incredible sense of accomplishment and fulfillment. I think that is what most workaholics find to be very addicting, it’s not just the money and attention that comes with success, but it is looking in the mirror and knowing you’ve accomplished your goals and that you are doing what you were meant to do with your life and your God given skills.

Urban Meyer is probably feeling an intense struggle with these issues now, if I had to guess, but like most men who are high achievers, there may be a breaking point where he has to make a decision one way or another, and I’m sure it will be the toughest decision of his life. Not that I know that guy or anything, but I definitely know the type and high achievers often find it difficult to know when enough is enough and they need to give their bodies and their minds a break for their own health’s sake.

Ruling Says Condoms Not Required in Porn

Hmm, I’m not so sure this is a good thing for those involved or not, although I’ve never talked to a porn star personally to see how they feel about the ruling in the first place, whether they like the fact that they are required to wear condoms on set or not.  I’m sure there were some who opted for this safer method anyways, but there are of course also extensive STD tests that most porn makers have to go through as well to make sure their stars are not going to pass an STD on to their costars and perhaps infect others as well beyond the set (of course this isn’t why, I’m just thinking a little outside of the box too).

I had thought that there was a ruling on set of porn films that they had to wear rubbers, but apparently I was wrong, because an AIDS activist group recently campaigned in California to get the county where a few thousand porn stars had come to a clinic with STD’s to force them to wear condoms on set to protect against the spread of AIDS and other STD’s.  They were unsuccessful in their bid though, and a judge ruled that would be too broad of an interpretation over the county’s power to rule over public health.

I suppose that the judge is right in a way. How can you force this to happen when you can’t even enforce what people do in their private lives? Also, if the porn industry is testing their participants regularly, this should be sufficient enough to help deter STD’s from spreading. I almost wonder too if you started forcing porn companies to make their stars wear condoms, would it just create a higher demand and more market for “non condom” porn movies?  Hmm, something to contemplate.

Honestly, I’ve seen porn movies with and without condoms. The condom does take some of the excitement and dirtiness out of it, but it’s still a porn, it’s just dressed up a little differently, so to speak. You’re always going to have people that don’t want to see the male starts wearing rubbers, and that’s just an unfortunate fact. I wonder how the female stars feel about this – if they like it or hate it.  I think if I were a female porn star I’d be happy if the men had to don condoms, it makes me a lot safer then, and I wouldn’t have to worry as much about where they’ve been, so to speak.

Happy, Happy New Year!

Hey all you MEM readers, just wanted to wish you a very – very (wink wink) Happy New Year for 2010!  Whatever you’re doing tonight, here’s to doing it safely, so if you’re drinking, don’t even think about driving.  Here’s to hoping for lots more hanky panky this coming year, and even more discoveries in the realm of male enhancement and sexual prowess!

HAPPY NEW YEAR GUYS!!!

All I Want for Christmas..

Hey there all you MEM readers!  I just wanted to wish everyone an amazing Christmas day, and if you don’t celebrate Christmas, then you have yourself a really good day too.  Let’s all take a minute to think of the things we have to be thankful for. Our families, our jobs, our health, and our friends. Those are the things I’m thankful for at least, and I feel even more thankful these days because I have a roof over my head and food on my plate. Sure, the food isn’t as plentiful, and the extra spending has dried up, but I’m just thankful that I can pay my mortgage and afford to have a car, get to work, have a job and am able to enjoy the comforts of life.

Merry Christmas Male Enhancement Magazine readers!   Be sure to stick with us for a new year of more reviews, news and discussions on the wonders and ever increasing world of sexual exploration and enhancement.

Tiger Woods a Sex Addict?

Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the past couple weeks, you’ve heard the explosive story that just seems to be getting more and more scandalous as each day passes, about golf great Tiger Wood’s alleged infidelities that span more and more women who seem to be coming forward every day. Shoot, the latest is how Tiger pays for sex allegedly, as one Madam has claimed that he has given call girls gifts and paid for gifts. Even more awful, one porn star says that he “chose her” to have sex with at his bachelor party, the night before his wedding. Wow, all these accusations sure are tarnishing the golf star’s formerly squeaky clean family man image.

Worst of all, you really gotta feel for his Sweden-born wife Elin.  It seems like she may have given up some of her dreams to become Tiger’s devoted wife, and give birth to two children for him, to be treated this way. And Tiger, you bonehead, she’s very beautiful. Good job ruining things, because I have a feeling that this may be the start of his downfall, unless he can spin this to advantage somehow, but I’m just not seeing that.

Cheating is still considered morally reprehensible by the majority of the American public, but one, maybe even two infidelities might be forgiven by the finicky American public, but now that more and more women are coming forward, this is not looking good for Tiger. I could definitely see him coming out with a public statement that he is dealing with sex addiction, which seems more and more to be a scapegoat of the rich and the famous who are caught with their pants down – several times – to use when they have betrayed their spouses’ and their public’s trust.

Is there really such a thing as sex addiction though, or is it really just a faulty wiring that makes people like this go out and seek sex actively with people other than their spouse or significant others?  I think there probably is such a thing as sex addiction, however I also think that it is wrongly used to justify acts that normally land you on the biggest cad of the year list.  Hmm, should we start a biggest cad of the year list?  That might be kinda fun!

Men: Don’t Hide That Work Frustration!

We all have pent up frustration of all sorts.  The more emotionally healthy we are at expressing that frustration though, the more likely it won’t interfere with our longevity by giving us the mother of all mothers – a heart attack. No health problem, other than cancer, strikes as much fear into the heart of a man, especially a man in middle age or slightly beyond.

Men are known to have more heart problems, and there is even some research suggesting that men’s hearts simply are not as strong or resilient as a woman’s heart is built, most likely because a women has to withstand the enormous pressures of carrying and having a child, which puts a lot of stress and strain on the woman’s body.  That’s capitulation of course, but it does make sense if you wrap your head around it all the way.

It’s not to say that all men’s hearts are inferior, simply because they are male.  Of course, there are a lot of other factors that enter into the picture that determine the strength and longevity of our dear ol’ hearts. Things like congenital heart defects (which we are born with) and also genetics play into our heart issues quite a bit too, so mom and pop’s tickers may definitely foreshadow any problems you might have as well.

A study, commissioned in Sweden, showed that men who tended to cope with problems at the workplace where they perceived that they were being treated unfairly or were not being compensated or otherwise were being treated badly or taken for granted, in a way that they did not show any outward emotion (ie they bottled their emotions up), were almost five times more likely to suffer heart attacks where they died, or to have some serious form of heart disease.

This is not a huge surprise, as emotions are closely tied to our health in more ways than even the most self aware of us can imagine.  I wish that men (and women) would realize what they are doing to themselves when they don’t address issues that are bothering them or making them feel bad in some way. Also, if you are in toxic relationships or in situations that create a lot of stress of self esteem issues, then you need to get out of them as soon as possible if you are to salvage your health.

There is such a very powerful connection between the mind and body that I don’t think people realize how much they can help their health by being mentally healthy.

Day After Thanksgiving Hangover?

Are you experiencing that familiar holiday “hangover”?  Not necessarily because you imbibed too many holiday spirits (aka beer, wine, cocktails and eggnog and the like), but because first of all your family drove you a little nuts, and second of all, you are still digesting that massive plate of turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing and a dollop of healthy vegetables you had? Oh, and the seconds, and the desserts like pumpkin pie, pumpkin roll, cherry and apple pie, dirt casserole and a little bit of that delicious cake that someone brought?  And yes, I’m taking that sample from my own personal experience yesterday.

Well, relax, because we’ve all been there.  The holidays are fun, yes. But they are also overwhelming and can lead to a lot of stress eating and drinking that almost never leaves off with the actual holiday, but rather it tends to drag on through the whole month of November and the entire month of December.  I call it my own personal holiday hangover, because after Thanksgiving, it feels like your body just wants to eat whatever it wants, and wants to consume way more alcohol than what is healthy for you.

Not that it hurts here and there, but let’s face it alcohol overconsumption and eating foods that are fatty and high in salt and sugar isn’t what’s going to give you that golden ticket that guarantees a spot in the octegenarian or centenarian line that so many of us aspire to be in these days, longevity wise.  Not only that, but we all know what feeling fat and lazy does to our libido (let’s keep it sexual, after all that is the topic of this blog, and sex makes the world go ’round, that and love I guess).

It’s no surprise that our libidos tend to go down the tubes around the holidays. Not only are we stressed about what the perfect gifts are for Aunt Betty and cousin Sue, but we also have to deal with holiday parties, people constantly bringing naughty foods into work for us to nosh on which make us feel even more lethargic, and then we also have to deal with the financial and family pressures that come with the holiday season.

In short, it’s pretty tough out there during the holidays, and if we don’t watch it, before we know it we’re looking at the scale and noticing we put on fifteen pounds and now we gotta take it off. So, have fun, but not TOO MUCH fun this holiday season. Remember what’s important, and remember that happiness isn’t always loads of butter and carbs (well, sometimes it is), but it’s really about having control and feeling good about yourself.

Nature’s Aphrodisiacs, Raw Oysters, Threatened by FDA

Raw oyster lovers, perhaps maybe because they know of their supposed aphrodisiac qualities that have become an interminable part of sexual mythology, have asked the FDA (Food and Drug Administration) to back off their plans to limit the sale of these buggers, because they think they are too dangerous and could be contaminated when eaten raw, making a person perhaps violently ill if consumed.

There is a certain bacteria that raw oysters can harbor that can potentially kill people, although the risk is fairly low, it’s there and it’s real, and it could either make you very sick or at the very worst kill you, and that is the reason that the government is trying to halt sales, which are a huge industry in the gulf of mexico in the summer and spring months when tourists and locals devour these petite bites of heaven (if you like that sort of thing, that is).

In response, there has been an uprising, saying that the government is meddling too much and would hurt the local economy too much, and I happen to agree. Hey, people should know that eating raw food of any type is dangerous because the bacteria is not killed by heat. You can also get sick from eating steak tartar, or even sushi, and I’ve heard of people getting sick from a lot of types of seafood, even when it’s been cooked thoroughly, so I think the FDA is taking this a bit too far, and should just urge restaurant goers to be cautious that they could get sick when eating certain food.

Hey, and those that use raw oysters as an aphrodisiac won’t be disappointed either.  Is there any truth to oysters being sexual stimulants?  I honestly don’t know if they do something to men and women that might make them horny, but I’ve heard lots of anecdotal stories about it, so there must be some sort of truth to it.

Why Fighting Dampens Sex Drive

I’ve never seen anything so powerful as a tiff or full blown fight in dampening any sort of sex drive in both women and men.  This may be especially true for women, who are much more emotionally driven when it comes to anything sexual then men are.  Men tend to be, oh how do I say this, primitive, when it comes to their sex drive and sexual needs, not so much relying on that emotional part of the brain to get them in the mood, but more so getting themselves motivated by the primordial urges that separate men from women when it comes to how they derive pleasure from sexual contact.

Fighting not only puts pressure on a relationship, it also turns couples against one another, and turns on those little sneaky feelings of resentment and hostility that interfere with the need to copulate, or make love, totally sabotaging your planned little tryst.  If you think about it, it does make sense, since most couples who fight like cats and dogs also end up having a lousy sex life, unless they happen to have incredibly great “make up sex”, but even after a while makeup sex can’t make up for the fact that you have fought so hard that the last thing on earth you want to do is touch eachother and create pleasure for one another.

That’s a sign that a relationship is broken, when partners no longer have that desire to do things for eachother, whether it be in bed or out of bed,  and it’s a sign that counseling may be needed. When you think of all the potential things there are out there that couples can fight about, including money which is probably the most common thing, especially right now, it’s easy to let fights or little spats get in the way of a great, mutually fulfilling sex life for both partners.

You really have to be able to have an open dialogue with your partner, and resolve to never go to bed angry, I’ve found this immensely helpful in my relationship of eight years, because if we go to bed angry, that tends to run over in to the next day, and the next, and the next, and so on and so forth until the resentment builds to intolerable and unmanageable proportions. It’s best to talk it through, trust me.  Couples have enough pressure facing them these days, it’s best to hash it out when it happens instead of letting it stew, take it from a pro!