Archive for January, 2009

Are Women “Gold Digger” Lovers?

There have been some recent studies that would seem to indicate that there is a strong possibility that women derive more sexual pleasure from having sexual relations with men who have higher balances in their bank acccounts, retirement plans, and liquid asset and cash flow.  Does this mean that the ever persistent stereotype of women, especially certain types of women, being “gold diggers” like in the famous Kanye West song that caught on just a few short years ago?

We’ve all got an image in our head of what a gold digging woman looks like, and usually she looks well kept, and a little overdone, and “high maintenance”, but these new studies and surveys suggest that women, no matter what walk of life they came from and what they look like, tended to report higher frequency of orgasms and sexual pleasure (see female sexual enhancement for more on this) as well as satisfaction when their lovers were more well to do men who had financial security and spent their money generously.

Does this mean that your seemingly warm hearted, well meaning, kind and down to earth partner may be in fact, down deep a gold digger?  Well no, it doesn’t really mean that, and there are certainly people who exhibit their natural predispositions in unseemly ways, such as women who really pursue that stereotype in the way they carry themselves and their moral compass, but it looks like women are genetically programmed over all these years of evolution, to seek out and gain satisfaction in lovers who have financial security.

It’s not the money itself, in reality it’s the female predisposition to seek out partners in life and sexual preference who are good “providers” for their offspring.  So in reality, it’s actually a survival instinct, a mechanism of protection and providing for their children, that is the underlying reason for women to seek out men who are financially stable.  Think about it.  Men are genetically programmed to seek out women who look a certain way and have certain waist to hip ratios because down deep, our instincts tell us that those women are more fertile.  It’s the human condition to want to further our specie’s growth, development and properity, and these are just some of the ways they exemplify those tendencies.  It seems unattractive but really it’s the reason that the human species has evolved so effectively.

Does this mean that to bag the babes you want to, you need to have a colossal bank account and money at your disposition at all times to do anything you want?  Not necessarily, but financial stability, responsibility and security is a good idea, if not to get the women you want, but also for the purpose of fulfilling your own dreams.  What is not a good idea is being irresponsible with money or becoming bogged down in debt, that will never attract the right women, opportunities, or fortune into your life. There’s a good in between, you just have to find what that is for yourself.

Does Libido Drop with the Temperature?

Usually it’s confusing to consider whether one’s libido might go up or down in the winter time and colder climates.  Some conventional thought might be that when couples are all closed up together, it stokes the fires of romance, passion and lust, and others think that spring time is still the instinctual “mating time” for women and men.  I tend to agree with that thought, and it holds true for me personally in my sex life as well.  In the winter, my libido is pretty much lower, not gone or anything like that, but noticeably tempered.

It could be because we all tend to gain weight and not look as good – no tan, no exercise as we usually get more of in the summer, or it could also be because it’s just too darn cold for us to take our clothes off and get all hot and bothered – when we’re cold our first instinct is to stay warm, not to shed those clothes that keep us so warm for a little nookie time.

This makes it hard (no pun intended), to have a long, meaningful tryst with your partner since women especially are sensitive to the cold and body image and they may not feel so sexy when they might have put on a few in the winter and also have no color, unless they are ones that go tanning year round.

To help build the libido back up, you could install a home sauna in your home basement, that might help “warm things up a bit” if you know what I mean.  You could also go to a tanning salon and get a tan in the nice warm booths – this could simulate summer time for you and help stoke the fires of passion again.  Or you could simply go on a warm, tropical vacation with your loved one.  Not only are all stresses forgotten about on vacations, but we also tend to feel less inhibited sexually – and yes, much much warmer!

What Happens to the Penis with Age?

Aging seems to be cruel in so many respects, not only when it comes to the things that age can do to our bodies (but to a much lesser extent if we take care of ourselves, admittedly), is nothing compared to what it does to most of us when it comes to our penises and the ability to have sustained, fulfilling and pleasurable sex without all the worry that goes along with premature ejaculation and the like.

So, what are some of the things that men have to “look forward to” when it comes to their penises?  Do we have a lifetime full of fun surprises in store, or might we be one of the lucky ones that happens to not have any of the typical issues that most men have as they age, and their penis does also.  Premature ejaculation and the inability to get or maintain an erection and stay in the flacid state are the two most common problems that there are for men with aging penises, and they are easily overcome these days with many different medications, take for instance two of the top sellers – Viagra, Cialis and Levitra.

Even cognitive therapy can be useful for men who have experienced impotence, but for whom no medications for erectile dysfunction (ED) have worked.  It is increasingly accepted that men suffer from psychological erectile dysfunction now as well, whereas in the past the typical school of thought on this was that men only suffered erectile dysfunction because of problems with their “plumbing”.

Other problems cited by aging men with their penis and hence their sex lives are (some say) shrinkage. Some men actually report that they think their penis has shrunken in size.  Certain things do shrink as we age, and certain thinks expand, but it’s usually due to weight gain, weight loss, and muscle gain and muscles mass loss, not anything having to do with the actual tissue composure of the penise.  Perhaps perception is that the penis has shrunken because a man does not get as hard as he used to or has trouble maintaining the hard, long and fat erections of his youth.

However, there is really no evidence that any actual real “shrinkage” takes place on the penis due to age.  Hence the immense popularity of penile enlargement products, penis enlargement exercises and the like, and instruments like penis extenders that are supposed to help gently guide the penis mechanically to a larger size and girth in it’s flacid state.

So, while we are experiencing all the physical joys of aging (yes I’m being facetious), we can know that age does bring one thing that is priceless and valuable, and that is wisdom, courage and fearlessness that come with the years we have under our belt.  I love how the older I get, the more I feel that I don’t care so much what every single person thinks of me, and instead I do what’s right for me, and what I feel is best for the people around me, I think that beats any sort of youth any day personally.

A Newer, More Politically Correct “Joy of Sex”

I remember hearing about the book that enjoyed enormous popularity during the seventies and into the early eighties called “Joy of Sex”, but I never really knew what it was, and by the time I was old enough to understand sex and what it meant, I had forgotten about it.  As a matter of fact, I’m sure I had seen the book somewhere when I was younger, too young to understand, maybe at a family member’s house or something. 

What it was considered as was revolutionary for the time.  It spelled out sex and even had somewhat deviant descriptions of ways you can let it all go and enjoy different kinds of sex, including orgies and things that really were considered socially and ethically tabu at the time, and still are today. 

Funny thing is, that now, in the day and age of what is supposed to be eroding moral values, the newer version of Joy of Sex, which is supposedly completely overhauled and made more modern, there are more politically correct entries in this book, such as references to people missing limbs, having sex on horseback, and extramarital affairs or orgies. 

I think it’s a funny dichotomy we have going these days as far as morality and socially acceptable standards, because while we supposedly do have progressively lessened ideals or morality, there is still this stickler-like censorship against use of certain words, terms and stereotypes that are socially unacceptable.  Politically Incorrect has become somewhat of a buzzword that you never really even heard before the nineteen ninties hit. 

The new Joy of Sex tells men how to please their women and women how to please their men basically.  It allows couples to read the book and experiment with various sexual fantasies, as well as to talk about it more openly.  Early reviews of the newly revised book though, make it sound pretty tame and almost downright prudish in comparison with the older, wilder, hippie and almost perverse in some people’s eyes, version of the immensely popular and well known book of sexual self help and healing. 

Making us all feel a little less perverse, or pherhaps opening some of us up to the fact that maybe we’re a bit too subdued in bed, was the fun of the original and it sounds like the new one gives a whole new meaning to “watering” down in this day and age of political correctness. 

Sex Lube News

Sexual lubricants are one of the kinkier, more fun ways to help spice things up a little in your sex life.  Not only that, sometimes they are a downright necessity.  Ever had sex with your girlfriend or partner and things might be a little dry or you both may not be totally ready to perform sexual intercourse, and you end up a with a penis that is rubbed raw by friction and irritation?  That whole scenario can be avoided by using a good sexual lubricant like KY jelly or lotion or any number of the other great, non warming lubricants on the market today.

Why do I say non warming?  Well, because if you’re looking for a lubricant that is more of a protectant against the excess friction on your penis aspect of having sexual intercourse, then you want a straight, plain lubricant that doesn’t have any warming of tingling ingredients in it, because these can actually further irritate and dry out the vagina and also the penis, and make it an uncomfortable experience for both partners. 

I mean come on, we’re not living in a perfect world, and you aren’t both going to be totally primed, wet and ready for sex every time, so sometimes a lubricant is totally in order.  KY is a well known one that lot’s of people like, and there are numerous other ones that can be found at your local corner drugstore and larger retail outlets as well. 

Some other brands I like are Astroglide, which although it admittedly has a totally dubious, porn-like name, is a great lubricant.  Don’t use too much though, when they say astro glide, they mean it, you may be a little TOO slippery to get any friction and pleasure going on your penis so that you can properly ejaculate if you use too much of this fun stuff. 

Most sexual lubricants are silicone based, which gives them that slipper feeling that makes sexual penetration much easier, but it’s also the reason that they dry out so quickly.  I personally favor Astroglide a bit more because it doesn’t dry out and need to be reapplied as often as KY tends to.  If you want to also have a little more fun try some penis enlargement exercises, they can not only increase the overall girth and length of the penis and give you bigger, fuller erections, but they make lubes a lot more fun and you should get more sensation as well. 

Pheromones in Your Sweat?

That’s right, those tricky little devils they call pheromones that are supposedly responsible for our subconscious longing for sexual dalliances with certain people we see or come in contact with, are emitted through our sweat, so when you’re sweating a bit guys, this makes you a little sexier to women, and they actually can sense your sexual intentions toward them by subconsciously “detecting” or smelling your pheoromones.  In other words, they know they feel an attraction and a spark, but they may not be able to understand why all of the time.

Men sometimes wear their sexual desire on their faces by the expressions they’re using, and often relay them sometimes not even knowing it, through their physical gestures and demeanor.  I just read an interesting book called “Blink” by Malcolm Gladwell that was all about how humans have these exquisite mind-reading abilities that are used through how we depict subtle changes to the facial expressions people use as well as their body language. 

Of course, this doesn’t mean we are all psychic, but it does mean that humans have an innate sense of how to read facial expressions, even when they are fleeting and not so obvious to the naked eye.  Some of the examples he uses in his book are how marriage counselors that have been studying married couple’s interactions with eachother via videotape for years can tell within a few percentage points the likelihood whether that couple will remain together or divorce in a certain period of time, just by slowing frames down and reading expressions, as their developed expertise has allowed them to do.

Along the same vain, scientists have shown that women, when they were tested for certain chemical activities and brain activity when exposed to male sweat was that they some how subconsciously “read” that the man was attracted to them and wanted to be closer to them, because of the pheromones which are supposed to attract women that were emitted in their sweat.

I guess this explains why a lot of women claim that they love when they smell a shirt of their man’s that has a little bit of sweat on it (we’re not talking body odor sweat, just a lightly scented odor that turns them on), they actually get sexually aroused, but they don’t even know why.  It runs counter to what we would think, right, that a man’s sweaty clothes would be a major turnoff, but in fact it’s actually a subtle turn on for many female partners. 

Medication for Colds May Have Dual Prostate Cancer Use

A common medication that is used in the treatment of the common cold virus and the coughing that goes along with it, via cough syrups, called Noscapine, may have a dual purpose as a treatment for prostate cancer.  Although I’m unsure of how they made the connection to cancer research with a drug that is naturally occurring that is found in cough medicines, it sounds pretty promising since it cuts tumors around sixty to sixty five percent in mice that are caused by prostate cancer.

Prostate cancer affects so many men nowadays that it’s crucial men take good care of themselves, which means eating right, working out and making sure they get the right vitamins, minerals and nutritional support in their diet to lessen the risk of this cancer as much as they can.  They also need to make sure to go for annual prostate screenings and PSA tests, although the PSA tests are currently mired in controversy as to whether they can accurately detect prostate cancer’s presence in some cases.  Still, it’s the best thing we’ve got right now for prostate cancer, so something is definitely better than nothing.

The best thing about the Noscapine trials is that the mice that are treated with it have not shown any outward signs of negative side effects that scientists can see, and considering the nasty side effects of radiation, hormone therapy and the other treatments that are now used to treat prostate cancer, this is quite a positive upside.

The way the trials were run in mice with noscapine is that the control group was given water infused with noscapine, so the mice were getting a diluted form of the drug, while the other mice who did not experience any tumor shrinkage got water without any noscapine in it.  The mice with the drug of course showed the best signs of tumor growth improvement, and therefore proved that this drug might be very effective at helping to shrink cancerous tumors that stem from prostate cancer.

Bariatric Surgery May Revive Men’s Sex Lives

Well, it’s no secret that losing weight makes anyone feel a little sexier and a little more ready to do the deed at the drop of the hat, versus feeling paunchy and doughy, when you don’t feel like you’d want anyone to touch your gut or see you naked.  Men are just as susceptible to body image issues attacking their sex drive as women, it’s just that men are naturally more programmed to keep on pursuing sex anyways, even if they’re not feeling at their physical best, while women can turn off the desire button more easily and are also a little more linked to body image and sexual desire than men are.

However, men are showing that losing large amounts of weight through bariatric surgery, which is gastric bypass, where the stomach size is either banded off or reduced in some way surgically and people cannot eat as much, has definitely pumped up their sexual prowess and desire, and shows such a side effect on the sex life that it’s promising for how this surgery probably mentally affects men in a positive way.  It naturally helps the libido levels in men since they feel more confident, and all their “plumbing” is actually working better thanks to a more effectively functioning body as well after the weight loss. 

Some men, before the surgery, showed signs of sexual dysfunction ranging from impotence to not being able to maintain an erection very long – which is called premature ejaculation.  After surgery, these common sexual dysfunctions many times either greatly improved or disappeared, showing that weight loss in overweight individuals can prove to be a great boon to those who have some sort of sexual dysfunction.  Supplements such as VigRX which has been well reviewed can help cut down on incidents of premature ejaculation and prolong the sexual pleasure of having intercourse. 

Researchers say that this study on sexual function and weight loss surgery just further proves that sexual dysfunction is a reversible and treatable condition, and that excess weight definitely has a negative impact on sexual function.  In the study, it showed that sexual functions that were previously low were restored to regular age appropriate levels after the patients had lost the weight through surgery, whereas they were well below the age appropriate ranges for sexual function before. 

Toilet Seat Penis Injuries on the Rise

There’s been a lot of reports (considering it’s such a weird occurrence to happen and somewhat of a “freak” accident), that little boys who are of the right height to get injured at such a level, are getting their penises crushed when heavy toilet seats, which are all the rage now (I happen to prefer the heavier toilet seats, they don’t feel or look as cheap as the lighter cushioned ones of light plastic ones that fly up so easily you crack the back of the toilet every time as if you were some super strength being), come crashing down and happen to catch them right where it hurts.

I’ve heard of grown men being injured this way too, except usually you hear about grown men getting their testicles caught in sliding toilet seats when they sit down to either pee or go number two.  I’ve actually had the toilet seat slide on me a lot, sometimes all the way over the side of the toilet.  You have to be careful to get a quality toilet seat that stays put, and has solid bolts that are nonslip that connect the toilet seat to the toilet base. 

Frequently, I’ve noticed that  the bolts are the problem, since they loosen up and cause the toilet seat to slide wildly from side to side when you distribute your weight the least bit skewed to one side.

Doctors acknowledge that the toilet seat injuries that are seen in young boys penises being crushed usually are not very serious.  Sometimes they are held overnight to make sure they can urinate ok without any pain and then released, but it of course causes trauma and pain for the parents and the child, so doctors have a few recommendations that can make it safer for Joe Jr. to take a pee without getting his pee pee crushed!

They say to buy the lighter plastic toilet seats for any bathrooms that your male child might use, and of course the best thing is to supervise when you can.  However, we all know how independent kids can be, and this isn’t always possible.  So the next best thing is buying lighter seats, and the type that are cushioned (yes, they are ghastly to look at admittedly), so that any fall will be cushioned by an airy pillow-like seat on the top.  Nevertheless, it still may cause some sort of injury even if you buy the right kind of lid, so it’s prudent to keep your eyes open. 

Caffeine Seems to Work Faster On Men

Well, if you like the occasional expresso, or you absolutely have to have that cup of joe every morning or else you feel like you’re going to be completely dysfunctional the rest of the day, it seems that men are much more directly and quickly affected by caffeine than women are.  The difference in time that it takes a man to be affected by caffeine and a woman are actually quite dramatic, and suggest that a man’s ability ot absorb things into their blood stream and make use of them may be more efficient than a woman’s.

In fact, if you think about it, it sort of makes sense, since woman may suffer from poor circulation a lot more than men.  How many husband and wife partners do you know who have the battle of the thermostat every winter, and the woman is constantly turning the heat up while the man is constantly turning it back down.  I know one couple who the guy wears shorts all winter long indoors while his wife bundles up in sweats and sweatshirts and blankets just to keep warm in the same house that her husband finds “too hot” much of the time, even at temperatures that may seem perfectly reasonable to most people.

They say that caffeine should take about 45 minutes to fully absorb into anyone’s blood stream, for both men and women, but were surprised when, in their studies, men seemed to get much more peppy and alert after just ten minutes from drinking coffee or another caffeinated beverage, which counters the other evidence that it takes a while to fully absorb and be effective in the body.

So, guys, the next time you think that quick jolt you get from coffee is just psychosomatic, there is evidence that it creates this jolt quickly in most men, so rest easy knowing that you are in the same boat, and you may enjoy a more instant benefit from caffeine than you female partner, hey, that may give you the upper hand in some crucial early morning discussions, you never know