A brilliant man has recently died of pancreatic cancer, and he is one who, I admit, I had not known about before he died just this past Friday after outliving Doctor’s prognosis from his returned pancreatic cancer, which is one of the most deadly because of it’s difficulty in treating and the specific organ that it attacks, which is vital to the cleaning of our whole system. 

His name is Randy Pausch, and he’s a tall, fun loving guy who died an untimely death at the age of 47 - too young, especially for such an enthusiastic, inspiring, kind and gentle person who really knew how to talk to people, to inspire them, to encourage them to reach their goals, and to not be afraid to chase the dreams they’ve had since childhoo, and most importantly to not be swayed by such an increasingly pessimistic world.  I liked one part of his speech, where he talks about pissing matches, and how important it is to get out of a “pissing match” as quickly as one can, because all they are in fact, is unproductive and all “ego”. 

His “last lecture” became a Youtube sensation, and it was really focused around going for your dreams, and not being afraid to achieve them, and especially not to let the negative attitudes of others get you down.  He also spoke at length about the barriers you will achieve when going for your dreams, and that only those that truly want to achieve their dreams and the best life possible for them and their families, will end up achieving them. 

May you rest in peace Randy, for I am another one who has been inspired after watching your famous last lecture, as millions of others are, and I’m refreshed to see that someone is out there encouraging others to go for what they want in a kind and ethical way, something that is seriously lacking in today’s dog eat dog world.  Randy will be sorely missed by his wife Jai and their three children. 

We’ve long known that there is a direct link between aging in women and men and the subsequent decline in both’s fertility - meaning they both do not have as much baby-making power in their sperm and eggs, respectively, as they did when they were younger.  Further, the quality of the sperm and eggs declines as we age, paving the way for potential complications and genetic weaknesses in the resultant baby if we have babies when we are older and the quality is lower, not the mention the likelihood of pregnancy complications goes up.

While researchers had always known that women have a harder time conceiving as they age, the impact that the man’s sperm has on that conception is much larger than was once thought, meaning the guy’s sperm contributes equally to the likelihood of conception, and the fact that an older man may be trying to impregnate a woman has a very large effect on whether that will be a successful pregnancy.

The idea from this research is that men over 40 begin to see a dwindling in the quality of their sperm, and not only that, there may also be a higher likelihood of a miscarriage in the woman they impregnate if they get pregnant from a man who is over 40 years old, so we are more likely to see more complications not only if the woman is older, but also if the man is older.

While the number of miscarriages was about the same for women who were over 40, the amount went up significantly higher if both the women and her parter were older, since the man’s sperm also contributes to the pregnancy and the successful full term of that pregnancy, and miscarriages were seen much more often when the man was significantly older, showing the importance of not only the age of the eggs, but also on the age of the sperm.

Tantra has it’s basis in Buddhism and Hindu religions, and is a state of sexual pleasure and ecstasy that is supposed to transcend the boundaries of sex as we know and create feelings that are of a spiritual nature, not just purely physical sexual pleasure, but actually a spiritual experience where one may even see visions, lights, or momentary feelings of euphoria that feel “otherworldly”.  Gee, no wonder why so many people buy the Kama Sutra and seek out the ways of the Tantra when it comes to having more meaningful sex with their partners.

Sex, in the tantric meaning of it, is a means of transcending one’s self, of having a spiritual experience, and the purpose of sex is liberation, procreation and pleasure, and is a means to get into closer touch with our spiritual side and the spirit side of the world.  Tantric sex takes place after lengthy purification rituals, and is a sort of uniting of the female and male energies.

Not only does tantric sex elevate both individuals to new, unknown forms of ecstasy and euphoria, but they also do not believe in the “frictional” type of sex that we traditionally associate with the male orgasm and male sexual enhancement of the orgasmic feeling, but rather the couple locks in a still embrace for long moments as they both feel the sensations coursing through their bodies. 

As I watch lots of old couples get on famously, and er, not so famously, as in those ones that seem to constantly pick eachother apart and insult eachother in front of others or try to bring the other guy  down, I always wonder to myself, gosh if they act this way to eachother day in and day out, how do they ever want to have sex with eachother? 

So, I tried a little experiment, I’ve been with my girlfriend now for several years, we are not married, but sometimes we can bicker as though we are, and you can tell we are a “seasoned” couple by the way we interact with eachother.  We treat eachother very well, but there always comes a time in any relationship where the honeymoon is over and people start acting like, well, themselves. 

They start farting in front of eachother, letting eachother know what they really think of that awful morning breath, and heck, sometimes the gloves even come off and the insults start to fly, hopefully only to made up for later with a great session of sex of making out, if there is such a thing after you’ve been with someone that long.  My little experiment involved making a point of it to complement my partner every day, with one sincere, heartfelt compliment, and not withholding it like I might usually. 

Something like “I love when you do that”, or “you make me laugh”, or “you look beautiful today”.  Something that is meaningful and truthful, that you seem to just stop saying to the people you love for no good reason, when that “honeymoon” period is over.  And guess what?  The compliments made our sex life better.  I found that my partner was more willing and ready to jump in bed, felt more romantic and sexy, and also started to compliment me back, which made me feel sexy, wanted, and manly, and wanting to jump her bones. 

You see, men are not just about their penis and no feelings - they are moved by the same things women are, it’s just that women tend to hold grudges for things more than men and happen to take their grudges out in the bedroom by being unwilling for sexual intercourse, or not very enthused.  Bottom line is, you should be nice to and compliment your partner if you want a long lasting and satisfying sex life and years to come with a meaningful relationship and gratifying sex.  Then, who needs Viagra or Viagra alternatives when you have your very own natural libido enhancer for men?

There may be a newly discovered weapon in your arsenal against ED, or erectile dysfunction, that men are most likely going to like, at least those that enjoy sex, but I think that’s just about every one of us, right?  There is new research being conducted overseas that strongly suggests something that really may seem like common sense to most men, and most women.  At least it makes sense to me.

The suggestion is that a man should have sex more than once a week to help maintain what he’s got, in other words, to avoid getting ED and suffering the problems associated with this fairly common ailment.  They found that in groups of men who had sex less than once a week, ED was much more prominent, and the men who had sex more than once a week or several times a week tended to not suffer with ED as much, by a very large statistical gap too.

Researchers say that one of the best ways to avoid ED is to actually make sure you’re using that appendage as much as you can, and then it won’t stop getting used to it, or suffer stage fright of sorts when you go to use it again.  It’s almost like if you look at it like working out and your fitness routine, it’s the same sort of mentality, that if you ever stop doing it, your body quickly becomes accustomed to this and will stop remember how.

I’ve often wondered, there is always something that every one of us thought would be “cool” to experience in the sack, and it seems to be different for all of us, sometimes dramatically so.  So, it got me thinking, how and where to sexual fantasies originate from?  Are they spontaneous, or are they carefully culled from one’s life experiences, their childhood crushes, or a combination of factors?

Well, most likely, they do come from a combination of experiences.  Perhaps once you saw a movie where a couple has a scintillating romp on the beach or in some other fairly public place, and thought that the aspect of questionable privacy and even a little voyeurism would add a lot of excitement to the sexual interlude.  Or maybe you had a crush on a woman when you were a kid who wore some specific kind of clothing, and now you want to have your partner dress up similarly. 

Another scenario could be that you had a crush on someone who was in a certain profession, say a childhood teacher, or a nurse or something, hence your sexual fantasies as an adult may be somewhat nostalgiac in their quest for some sort of memory or a feeling that goes back to those young carefree days when you were just exploring your first feelings of sexuality. 

Another thing that sexual fantasies may be born of is overcoming some sort of a fear you’ve had, like the having sex in a fairly public place thing.  

Lots of people have fantasies about that, or of meeting a perfect stranger out in a bar and then taking them back and having a torrid one night stand, but they know how dangerous that is in real life and in these times, so they might want their lover to pose as a stranger and they do the role play thing and act like they are strangers so they can act out this “naughty” fantasy safely and without cheating on anyone.  Sexual fantasies definitely run the gammut when it comes to individual personalites and the paradigms that shape our lives and our ideas. 

A man from the UK is claiming that over the past ten years, he has slowly been turning into a woman against his will and through forces that he has not helped along in any way, ie hormone therapy.  The man who is now in his sixties has said that he began to slowly change about ten years ago and take on more feminine characteristics that are only normally associated with women, who have high levels of the female hormone estrogen. 

So, either he has an extreme sudden onset lack of the  male hormone testosterone, or he has a severe imbalance which allows the female hormone estrogen to take over, because that is what would typically cause the types of symptoms he has been experiencing over the past ten years, which include a softening of the skin, a diminishment of facial hair, and the slow growth of breasts, which is a womanly physical piece as we all know. 

Apparently doctors initially thought he was secretly taking hormones to gain the feminine characteristics until he adamantly denied this and firmed his statement that he does not want to become a woman, that he firmly wants to remain a man and wants medical help to reverse this slow feminization of his body for unknown reasons.

Doctors apparently have never come up against such a strange ailment, so they naturally did not know how to help the man and initially offered him a sex change when they thought that was his goal.  We’ve seen men grow breasts before because of hormonal imbalances, and it is currently a very embarrassing problem for many men who try everything to get the “man boobs” to go away, but this man is experiencing much more than just “man boobs”, he’s actually becoming a woman in many other ways, outwardly, and to his and his family’s dismay. 

My thoughts are that doctors may try some sort of testosterone therapy on the poor guy, to try to get his male dominant characteristics to take over again, but there may be more variable at play here that they need to address before just giving him hormone therapy, or some underlying disease of ailment that needs to be treated that is indirectly causing the hormone anomalie. 

It seems Paul Hogan is under investigation by Australian authorities for some sort of tax evasion.  Paul Hogan is the infamous Crocodile Dundee character from the eighties that created a movie and franchise sensation instantly, and if you’re in your thirties or above, it’s a good chance you’ve seen one or all of the Crocodile Dundee movies.  Mr. Hogan seems to be taking a somewhat cavalier attitude toward the accusations leveled at him by saying “come and get me” basically to the Australian authorities, and says that he will soon be returning to Australia to film a movie.

Wesley Snipes, another action hero, but a born American, has also been charged with tax evasion, and has actually begun to serve jail time (I think, or at least he was sentenced to jail time I believe), so I guess even stars aren’t immune to the wrath of the IRS, Mr. Taxman. 

You do wonder what goes through people’s minds when they realize they are under investigation for tax problems, because the IRS and I’m sure Australia’s version of the IRS strikes fear into the hearts of most citizens for some reason if they think they might be in trouble.  Lord knows they have a lot of money, and the funny part is that most people busted for tax evasion are the ones who make millions to begin with.  I guess it’s sort of an anomalie. 

Impotence, like men who are insecure or feel unworthy because they feel they have a small penis, really hurts a man’s emotional state.  And why?  Well, while it’s not necessarily fair and is partially imposed on us by society standards, men have been objectified (yes, us men are objectified too, just in a different way from women), as the sex that always wants to have sex, and should always be able to have sex and want it at a moment’s notice. 

Anything less than that, or less of a show for the desire for sex, and men are often perceived by their female partners as less of a man, or a man who has something wrong with him because he never wants sex.  Many times this is because he simply is afraid that he will not be able to get or maintain an erection, and rather than trying he gives up on the prospect and idea of sexual intercourse all together, or finds ways to avoid it coming up. 

They may even be afraid that their partner thinks they are having an affair with someone else, or that they have lost their sexual attraction to them, and this being voiced only puts more pressure on a guy who is facing impotence or some form of impotence or a libido in need of some help. 

Impotence is a very serious problem in itself, psychologically, but even more important is that the presence of impotence may indicate a larger health problem in a man, such as a heart problem, since the very thing that results in penile enlargement and engorgement, and us getting an erection is our blood vessels, and if there are problems with circulation, it could mean a bigger picture problem that involves certain organs. 

A man in Romania, who is only 33 years old to boot, has won a settlement in a Romanian court against the surgeon who accidentally severed his penis during a surgery that involved his testicles, against his surgeon, for almost eight hundred thousand dollars for an obviously huge amount of pain and suffering and emotional trauma from the incident. 

Apparently the man could not even get his penis reattached, and muscle was taken from elsewhere on his body to replace the area where the penis was strictly for functional use, but it is not a functioning penis in every sense and is there really more for aesthetic purposes.  You would think this guy might have won well over a million dollars, since this is an egregious miscarriage of surgical skills and is obviously a blatant case of malpractice.

Doctors and surgeons, at least here in the US, are required to carry malpractice insurance for these very reasons, because if they were to get sued, they may not be able to pay up out of their personal income or belongings, and doctors today basically risk losing it all if they have a malpractice suit in this litigious society if they do not have malpractice insurance, which pays out a certain amount for malpractice suits, up to a limit that is usually determined by the premium paid and the limits chosen by the insured when they sign up for the policy.

These days, you just never know what’s going to happen during surgeries, but this story is one of the worst cases of malpractice with a surprisingly low payout if you ask me.  Just my opinion though, maybe this is a high amount for something like this for all I know, I’ve never really heard of similar cases so I have nothing to solidly compare it to.