It occurred to me recently after my partner had been away for a while, that absence definitely makes the heart grow fonder, or at least makes the libido stronger.  She was visiting relatives and the whole time she was away, sex was all I could think about.  I guess it’s that old saying that you don’t know what you got til it’s gone, or that you want what you can’t have, right?

It is true that when our partners are away for a while, we tend to get a little more randy when they’re gone, and certainly more so than when they are actually around the majority of the time, unless there is a large libido enhancer or natural sexual enhancement product at work, such as some specific seafood or a certain scent lit up, or maybe another type of food that is supposed to increase the sexual appetite. 

Experts in relationships say that being apart is actually healthy for a relationship, as long as it’s in healthy doses.  Say if you are away all of the time, it may foster feelings of resentment or distrust, but if you are attached at the hip all the time, naturally you will get tired of eachother, and guess what, your sex life would usually suffer too - go figure! 

I know for she and I, we both feel the same way when it comes to this theory on relationships, that too much togetherness can really be a bad thing, and that one must be allowed to have their own time to do their own thing so that not all sense of personal identity is lost, which fosters those negative feelings of being trapped.  Relationships aren’t easy, that’s for sure, but as long as we can do things in moderation, that’s when things go as smoothly as possible.