If we’re lucky enough in our lifetime, we’ve both heard and said the L word to partners and family members many times by the time we die.  I’m talking about the word Love, and what it means to sexual and intimate relationships.  It seems that when we are in a committed relationship it would be wonderful to hear those three little words “I love you” all the time, just as a reassurance that our partners do indeed still love us.  But is there a point where we can take it too far and actually push someone away by proclaiming our love for eachother on too frequent a basis?  Yes, absolutely.

We’ve all heard the cliche of a partner who is a bit too clingy and feels the need to constantly voice our love for the other, and indeed there is usually, statistically, one partner who is a little more needy than another - that’s how relationships usually work, one is usually able to give emotionally a bit more than the other, and this creates a balance. 

However, when one partner is constantly either saying or demanding that you say you love them, it can get old really fast, and instead of fostering a nuturing relationship based on emotional trust, can quickly turn one against the other and even create feelings of hostility and resentment toward a partner who is demanding this emotional output 24/7.

There’s always got to be a balance though, and if you approach a partner who seems overly amorous all the time and is constantly either voicing their love or making you do it or making you feel guilty for not voicing it enough, you should really sit down and talk to them about it, and get to the heart of why this is so important to them and that it makes you feel overly pressured and pushes you away.  After all, there’s nothing wrong with saying I love you, but doing it too often almost diminishes its meaning and often times can create a feeling of burden in a relationship on one partner.