I read an article recently that concluded something very scientific and profound, that your sexual desire (libido) is destroyed by stress.  Wow, what  breakthrough, don’t ya think!?  Yeah, it seems obvious to me too, but apparently now, in addition to the abundant anecdotal data we have that stress hinders our desire to copulate and be intimate, there is actual scientific backing to this reasoning. 

Actually the evidence is showing that not only can stress negatively impact one’s sexual relationships and desire for sexual intimacy, but it can be downright devastating to one’s libido.  More susceptible to not wanting sex due to life’s stressors and medical issues (which, we all know can lead to stress in themselves, not just impact the part of the body they physically affect), are women, especially women in their fifties. 

Men are susceptible as well, and certainly do get affected by sress at work and in their personal life, or even strife within their partnership or marriage, but we all know that women are more “cognitive” sexual creatures, and their thoughts and emotions may play a great deal more into their sexual pleasure and subsequent desire to continue having sex than it does for men, who are more creatures of habit and naturally higher libidos.  Men can take the best multivitamins for men, but they still have to want the sex naturally too! 

Sounds unfair, but there is scientific merit according to research done as a study on men and women who reported feeling not so amorous versus men and women who did.  They also say that just not addressing these types of issues may be or seem easier to people, but in fact if it is just left alone it can cause serious rifts in partnerships and marriage. 

As a matter of fact, yes, there are a lot of other stressors in relationships such as disagreements about how to live life, raise kids, about money and so on, but lack of sex or quality of sex can actually lead to additional problems and more tension in a relationship, so it’s best to nip these types of issues in the bud with therapy or even prescribed medication if that’s what it takes.