I read an interesting article in a woman’s magazine recently that basically spelled out why so many women find it a lot harder than a man to reach orgasm when they are actually having sex, versus being stimulated otherwise. 

Many women have reported that they find it difficult to achieve a full orgasm form simply engaging in sexual intercourse, and the reason for this very well may lie in the fact that the primary part of the body that stimulates a woman to have an orgasm, the clitoris, is not really stimulated during the typical missionary style sex as it would be during foreplay or self stimulation. 

Not only that, but the G-spot, that magic spot that is inside the vaginal walls, and about the size of two fingers put together in width, is not easily reached during your typical sexual session either.  In fact, only about thirty percent of women report having orgasms during sex on a regular basis. 

That number can be increased by doing sex positions that make you closer to your partner, say if you are propped up against a wall and she is on top, there will be more friction provided on the clitoris, which will stimulate your partner more readily and bring her to orgasm. 

Another good position is the woman on top, so she can adequately place herself over the man, making it so that her clitoris is stimulated while the sex is going on.  Or the woman or man can also manually stimulate the clitoris with their fingers during sexual intercourse, which will help things along. 

There is actually couple’s therapy which many find helpful in getting their sex life back to sizzling.  It’s true for every couple, with time, the newness of sex fades, and for some reason it becomes challenging for both partners to think of new and exciting ways to stimulate eachother. 

Another cool thing you two can do is purchase pheromone therapies for one another, these have been shown to help increase sexual arousal at a more subconscious level, leading to more touching and physical interaction.  There are pheromones to attract a woman that might do just the trick.  If nothing else, they are a great “toy”.