Most couples, when they get into the “comfort” stage where most of the initial excitement and unexpectedness runs out of the relationship on a sexual level, feel that they are sexually out of sync. In other words, one partner gets in the mood, but the other has other things on their mind, and is nowhere near feeling “frisky”.

As the level of excitement and anticipation goes down, and familiarity sets in, the levels of dopamine, that awesome chemical that makes us feel “high” when we’re in love and still in the sexual lust stages, goes down.

This is probably one of the number one complaints in long term relationships and marriages. One partner usually ends up feeling rejected, and sexually undesirable, simply because their partner never seems to get in the mood simultaneously.  The key is to enhance libido naturally also, which can be done by taking certain mixtures of herbs as well.

It’s important to maintain an objective perspective on this though. You have to look at yourself. Are you always in the mood at the exact moment your partner is? Probably not. Although it is much easier for a man to get sexually aroused generally, men also have their times when they really feel like having sex or being intimate is just too time consuming and almost a “hassle”, if you will. Usually this tends to coincide with when a man is stressed about something specific or is preoccupied with other things like finances, or a job that isn’t going well, things like that.

As a relationship begins to reach full maturity, it’s important that if you love eachother and remain committed, that you make a joint effort to go out to romantic dinners (without kids if you have them), get a hotel and just go at it once in a while. Or go out to a bar, and play make believe.

Pretend you just met eachother and you’re taking her home for the first time. It sounds ridiculous, but role playing really works for many couples who report they feel they’ve “lost it” and need to regain some of that initial excitement, and looking forward to the unknown, exploring eachother again as if it is the first time. This will make for a long lasting, mutually gratifying relationship for both parties.