Did you know that a staggering 50% - actually more like 60% of people in monogomous, long term relationships are afraid to ask their lovers for what they really want, and really need when it comes to their sexual relationship? 

Most people say that it is either due to the fear of hurting the other partners feelings or making them feel inadequate, or quite simply, the fact that both partners have grown somewhat complacent and accepting of what their sexual life is like, and convinced that it will not change (or not caring if it does change). 

You see, the problem with love - and I mean real, true, long lasting, marriage love - is that once you really fall in love with a person and want to genuinely stay with them for the rest of your life for all intents and purposes, you tend to let the sexual end of the relationship, well, shall we say, fall by the wayside a bit. 

It’s not that you don’t occasionally fantasize about what you’d like your partner to do to you, or what you’d like them to do more often to your or for you, it’s just that mustering up the energy to actually do something about doesn’t seem like the first thing you want to do when you get home from that exhausting day at work, right? 

Let’s face it, keeping it spicy in the bedroom takes energy, time and communication, and sometimes we’re just - well, we’re just plain old lazy.  We grow to used to eachother and don’t pay attention to eachother’s changing needs, or need to keep things alive.  

This is what sadly kills many sexual relationships, and also leads to the overall demise of many relationships all together.  Take the time, take the energy, and I think you’ll be amazed at how much your partner is willing to do to please you in the sack.