I have TONS of friends, male and female who say they participate in dirty talking while they’re having sex, heavy petting, making out, or whatever words you want to use to describe getting intimate with a partner.  Why does this turn so many people on?  And why does it seem to “do it” for both men and women in the bedroom? 

Well, for women, usually talking dirty allows them to let go of some of their “good girl” inhibitions and feel a little more like she did when she first met a guy.  A little more daring, a little dirtier, and sexual. 

Women like it because it makes them feel kinky and a little like they’re doing something “wrong” that may not necessarily by the society norm of having sex in the missionary position, with the only noises coming out of their mouths being moaning.  In other words, it’s a departure for most women, unless you’re some sort of professional.

Men like it for many of the same reasons as women - namely the kink factor of talking dirty, but they also like it because men are much more visual creatures than women, and they are also much more turned on by the sounds they hear - in other words, they are turned on “audibly” as well as visually. 

Men like it when they hear their partner’s voice telling them what they’re going to do to them, making them feel like a big, virile, sexual and powerful man.  Or they may even like a little of the proverbial “degrading” talk where women take control and demand their partner do different sexual things to them.   

One of the aspects of talking dirty that is overlooked is the aspect of open communication in a sexual sense.  Many times, talking dirty is a little more acceptable and sexier than a person simply “commanding” you do certain things to sexually please them. 

Somehow it all seems a lot more sexual and kinky when you “purr” the words or bark commands in an over the top, obviously role playing manner.  Don’t know about you, but dirty talk works for me - it enhances the whole sexual experience!